About Love And Psychological Age

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Let's not talk about how to pick up and use a person of the opposite sex, but about why a feeling that is sincerely experienced as love and something high is sometimes associated with misfortune.

It's about the psychological age. A woman - a girl is looking for a father in love, a woman - a mother - for a son, and only a woman - a woman - a man. With men, everything is the same - mother, daughter, woman.

But as is customary in psychology, we will talk about women.

Here you can talk about psychological maturity, but for practical purposes it is better about the value-motivational system. It is, of course, related to the psychological age of a person, but it is easier and more understandable to talk about it than about such big topics as love in general or the lifelong process of psychological maturation.

How is a girl, a mother, or a woman determined? The sequence is exactly this, first the girl becomes a girl and a mother. Then some mothers by the age of thirty, forty, fifty become women.

In contrast to the traditional and patriarchal distribution of who is who, there is a psychological one. It is not about the length of hair, skirts and other external attributes of age, but about a complex system of values, priorities and psychological qualities.

There is no clear boundary, but there are drives, needs and qualities that govern a person, define him as a girl, mother or woman and, accordingly, determine the choice of a lover.

First of all girl

The need for approval and support in the development of self-worth (Girl, Mother, Woman)

Eroticism, refinement (Girl, Woman, Mother).

Needs care, affection and tenderness, emotional and bodily warmth (Girl, Woman, Mother).

Desire to be seen, marked, chosen (Girl, Mother, Woman).

Shyness and modesty (Girl, Mother, Woman).

Need for amusements (Girl, Woman, Mother).

The need for a romantic relationship (Girl, Woman, Mother).

The breadth of feelings is a wide range with extremes (Girl, Mother, Woman).

Need for emotional and physical warmth (Girl, Woman, Mother).

First of all, mother

The desire to take care of and take care of a man like a child, a kitten and a poor relative (Mother, Girl, Woman).

Feeding the beloved (Mother, Girl, Woman).

Priority on children. The man is secondary as a tool for the production of offspring (Mother, Girl, Woman).

The inability to conceive of oneself without connection with the child (Mother, Woman, Girl).

The thirst for power, control and management as an unconscious manifestation of Eros (Mother, Girl, Woman).

Reason is ruthless and powerful as the forces of nature (Mother, Woman, Girl).

Dominant maternal instinct (Mother, Woman, Girl).

The creation of love as the creation of refuge and silence (Mother, Girl, Woman).

Feeding the beloved (Mother, Woman, Girl).

Castrating, supporting oral satisfaction (Mother, Woman, Girl).

First of all a woman

A sense of self-worth that does not need external confirmation (Woman. Mother. Girl).

Sexuality awakening in a man (Woman, Girl, Mother).

Sensuality, sex drive - sex and passion in relationships (Woman, Girl, Mother).

The depth of feelings when it is not stormy on the surface (Woman, Mother, Girl).

Loneliness tolerance. When loneliness is undesirable, but not terrible (Woman, Mother, Girl).

Developed ability to live through frustrations (Woman, Mother, Girl).

Developed intuition and mind (Woman, Girl, Mother).

Search for common values with a man (Woman, Girl, Mother).

Self-reliance (Woman, Mother, Girl).

Self-realization, active social life (Woman, Girl, Mother).

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Based on this taxonomy, we can assume the orientation of a particular woman in search of a lover. Whether she needs to be adopted, adopt, or get married. Problems arise from a misunderstanding of oneself and a mismatch of expectations.

It happens that a woman - a girl leaves the age of a girl, and a daddy needs a younger and fresher one. Or the girl herself, growing up, no longer wants to live and share a bed with an aging man. In a mother-son relationship, it is not uncommon for a male-young man to eventually grow up, gain strength and begin to cheat on “mothers” with girls and women.

Women - women can also suffer, as men - men are also traitors, fall in love, leave, but these are exceptional cases. Self-worth, self-sufficiency, intelligence and sexual attractiveness of women - women serve them as a guarantee of a strong and long-term relationship with a man.

Women are wasting their time when they are focused on finding their lover or re-educating him. For relationships, you need to prepare yourself - becomes a woman, developing and reformatting your system of values and priorities. Some protection from problem relationships and unhappy love is orientation to your age group, but in this case, again, the psychological age of the partner turns out to be more important.

Author: Dremov Sergey Vladimirovich