2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Metaphorical cards are a multifunctional tool that allows you to work with different personality needs. Today I offer three techniques for working with sexuality using three different decks so that each of us can choose the technique and deck that will be enjoyable to work with. I've selected cards from each deck (completely randomly) so you can try out the tools provided.
Body and Sexuality Technique
Purpose: understanding destructive attitudes towards corporeality, the formation of positive attitudes towards your body, awareness of your bodily needs.
Age 16+
Recommended Deck: Web of Fear (I use it to work with inhibitions of sexuality and prenatal trauma) by Lomelind Majare
Instructions:
Choose a card that will answer the question “What is the human body”
Ask the client the following questions:
- What can you tell us about the map? How does it make you feel? Where are these feelings in your body? How do you think the character's body reacts on the map? How does he feel about his body? Why does he need it? How does everything you say about this character's body relate to your ideas about your body?
Choose three cards that will answer the question “My three beliefs that affect my body”. These are three destructive strategies that we will work with in the next stage (now I propose to work with one)
Invite the client to answer the following questions:
- What do you see on the map? Tell us about your impressions of the character. How does his body help him? What is the obstacle? Is your attitude towards your character similar to your attitude towards your body? Why? Form an attitude towards the character on the map with one sentence? How much does this concept affect your life?
Ask the client to choose 3 cards that will answer the question "How can I change my strategy of behavior so that my relationship with the body is more harmonious." Each of these cards will match the cards in the previous step
What do you see on the map? How do you feel about the character? How does the character's body help him in life? Does your body help with this? What possibilities are there in your body? How do they help you? How can you help your body? How would you like to treat him? What will you do to make your relationship with your body more harmonious?
Conclusions. Here we get three new strategies that will more constructively affect the client's relationship with the body
Technique "Bodily image from parents"
Purpose: to study destructive parental attitudes about physicality and sexuality, to understand how they affect the client's life now, how they can be used constructively in life now.
Recommended deck: Shadows of Sexuality
Age 16+
Instructions:
Ask the client to choose a card that will answer the question: "My ideas about corporeality and sexuality." Pay attention to how the client views and chooses cards, which cards scare him more, repel them, and which attract them
Ask the client the following questions: Why did you choose this particular card? What attracts you to her? What is repulsive? How does life affect the weight? What value do you get from this attitude towards this issue?
Ask the client to choose 2 face-up cards that will answer the question "My mom's ideas about physicality and sexuality."
You can ask the client the following questions:
- Why did you choose this particular card?
- Tell us about her? How does the card reflect your mother's attitude towards the body and sexuality? How do you feel about this opinion of your mother? How does this attitude help you? How does it interfere? How can you use this strategy to your advantage?
3. Similar to point 2. But here we are studying the father's attitude to corporeality and sexuality.
Ask the client to choose a card that reflects their new relationship to physicality and sexuality. Ask the client the following questions: What has changed in your attitude towards physicality and sexuality? What new things have you discovered for yourself? What strategies are you willing to let go of? How will you act in a new and beneficial way?
Technique "My parents and me"
Purpose: to study the destructive beliefs of the client about himself, his body and sexuality, the formation of new, constructive attitudes and strategies of behavior.
Tool: Deck "Delicious Zamorochki" for Working with Eating Behavior
For work, you can use both pictures and words.
Instructions:
For each of the points, offer to draw the client along the map. Each item is worked out in turn.
For work, you can use the questions: what do you see on the map? What do you think about it? how does this reflect your life situation? What is important for yourself in not being noticed in this situation? How does this help you in life?
1How did you feel in your parental family?
2. Mom's image
3. The image of a dad
4. Relationship between parents
5. Permissions from parents
6. My new opportunities
7. Conclusions, feedback
There are still questions! Write them in the comments)
We invite you to training courses on poppy and psychosomatics.
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I would be grateful for your feedback on the technique!
Yours faithfully and best wishes Pavlenko Tatiana
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