2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
One day my life changed. How, at full speed, I hit the wall and suddenly understood clearly - I don't want to punch it. Can? Yes, but…. why? What's behind it: the usual work, the usual, usual work schedule. Everything is like everyone else: home-work-vacation and in a circle. All such usual unexpected got out a "NO" that does not tolerate objections. Who am I? What can I do better? What is my strength and where is my weakness? What should I do, how to realize myself, where to find myself and many, many other questions.
I clearly saw my approaching 40 years and I understood that this was just a well-known middle-age crisis. It turned out to be a lifesaver for me.
Physiognomy, even then unconsciously, I have been using for a long time. As far as I remember, my friends held out photos of their young people and asked: tell me, what do you say about him, what kind of person? I gave a rather fluent description of the person. At the same time, I never focused on the fact that I was always right … I already knew this … But everything changed at one moment, when experiencing my own torment in thinking about who I am, what I should do in life, my questions to friends "Look at me, you know me, what do you think I can do in a high, without the need to look in anticipation of 18.00 and not expecting the weekend "I just looked at myself in the mirror. For the first time! Carefully! Abstractly … It was a different look and a different me. Not the one I'm used to and not the one that I thought everyone else was seeing. Another. I still call it OTHER VISION … It is with this OTHER vision that I look at clients or photos for analysis, but NORMAL - at friends and interlocutors.
The mirror showed me in such a way that I can't find words to describe it … the peculiarity of the perception of the world and its binding to my material … here is the line of fate change - it steeply goes to the side … here is how I can act in new circumstances for me and the way I used to live in everyday life … my ambitions are connected more with the social than with the personal, and in my personal, although it is difficult, but how many restrictions do I have in the social … Yes, something needs to be changed … Wow, it turns out, how much in my face …
Then it was simple: paper and pen, strengths and weaknesses, on the other side: what I want and what I don’t want, what I am doing now at work and how I live and write … write … write …
When I had the courage to read what I had written, I realized that I was lost. Absolutely. For practically everything that I did before was not mine. Do you really think that since that day my life has taken off? Alas. She rolled down, for I needed strength to climb up. I will write a banality, but most will understand it: only after reaching the bottom and pushing off, I got what I was striving for.
I guess I have the right to give advice. Just like you have the right not to listen to them)
1. Do not be afraid to change when you are confident in your abilities.
2. Do not be afraid to give up the usual small and regular, if you are worthy of the big and permanent (I mean salary and earnings).
3. You cannot find yourself if you have not lost.
4. Looking at yourself in the mirror is necessary not only to make up your lips.
5. A middle-aged crisis can be disastrous if you have been doing something different from what you really enjoy all your life.
6. Knowing your strengths and weaknesses is essential for yourself.
7. If you want to do something new, stop doing the old.
8. Stop being afraid of losing anything - only things and people of little value are easily lost.
9. If you are subscribed to this page, your life has already become somewhat different.
10. If you are reading this post, you are ready to move forward.
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