2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
I thought that I do not believe in such a thing as self-esteem in the mass use of this term.
There are three types of self-esteem in modern psychology:
- underestimated
- adequate
- overpriced
If you go to any source and look at the description of each of the types, you will immediately see the symptomatology understated by the same cognitive distortions, anxiety disorder, prl, bar, depression, etc.
It seems to me that self-esteem is such a fashionable container that everyone tries to raise every time with articles and trainings. Ignoring or pushing what really matters into the background.
- You know, I have a problem. I always fail when I try to do something new. Therefore, I am a complete loser in everything.
- You have low self-esteem, come to my training. We will definitely raise it.
I think colleagues immediately noticed a few things from the example (by the way, it is often encountered in everyday life). About each separately.
1. In the request, the person showed an example of "black or white" (or polarized) thinking, in other words, cognitive distortion. There is no gap in his words.
2. In the answer of a specialist there is an indication of low self-esteem, but…. Self-assessment is a person's assessment of himself, as soon as a specialist gives his opinion, assesses a person, it ceases to be self-assessment, but becomes an assessment of a specialist.
Self-esteem is a gradation, a scale by which a person compares himself with his environment, with his feelings and draws conclusions. This is a subjective scale, with an implicit gradation for others. When, for example, they tell me that I have low self-esteem, then what criteria did they use, what did they compare with, what did they start from, how did they come to this conclusion? For example, it is not clear to me …
Oh, are you not satisfied with life? Low self-esteem!
Do you think you do a cleaner job better than your peers? Self-esteem is overstated!
Do you think that you are as gray and worthless as others? Oh so this is adequate!
I came to the conclusion that the concept of self-esteem is a subjective concept introduced for lazy psychologists, or for psychologists who are lazy to understand the symptoms.
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