Build A Man Or Adapt To Him?

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

The choice of a partner, a life partner for some women is very problematic. As a result, it turns out that the woman assumed and wanted to find a man of the same type, but in practice it turns out that she received the opposite.

Any choice is conditioned by at least two criteria - “I want” and “I can”. It often happens that some women lose the second criterion “I can”. In the first and only place "I want". But, as you know, a relationship is primarily an exchange, not just consumption. When you ask such women the question “Why, you, man?”, Then in response you can hear something like the following, so that he would make me happy, protected, secure, calm and so on. To the next question “And what, will you do with it?”, Most often there is no intelligible answer. Is that the stamp of speech - "Love".

The fact that men are in women and what women themselves consider valuable in themselves are very different things. Men prefer those who have a docile disposition, who approve of their character, their friends, their hobbies. Those women who praise, try to look attractive to him, those who do not criticize on every occasion.

But those women who are more focused on their "inner world" - "I want", consider their positive traits - persistent character (my opinion is always correct), it is the man who should approve of her hobbies and point of view. Praising a man is possible only for what he did for the woman herself, and only when she liked it. In relation to their appearance, such women usually proceed from the principle - as I am comfortable, I dress as well. Regarding criticism, such young ladies always have a clear position - "You can't help but scold a man, he won't budge otherwise."

If you collect these women's ideas about yourself, you get the image of a strong, criticizing mother or a strict teacher. A strong man is unlikely to be satisfied with a relationship with such a woman, why does he need another mother, and even more so a teacher in life. And such women like those male representatives who are used to obeying. At the same time, they, as a rule, are without initiative, not executive, and for the most part, they try to compensate for their internal dissatisfaction with the use of alcohol or other drugs. Accordingly, a woman's “want” without “can” gets such a result. And often such women have the question "Why am I so unlucky with men?" The paradox is that such women seem to be not ready to change their attitude, but they do not want to be with those who accept this attitude.

The uniqueness of a woman, in my opinion, is in her plasticity and flexibility, in contrast to straightforward men. In different situations, a woman, using her superbly developed emotionality, can demonstrate completely different behavior. At the same time, self-esteem does not suffer at all, because if "I want" and "I can" together, the result can be much more pleasant.

Everyone has the right to choose …

Live with joy!

Anton Chernykh.