2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Who is afraid of what,
That will happen with that, -
There is no need to be afraid of anything.
This song is petted
Peta, but not this one, And the other one too
Looks like her …
God!
A. Akhmatova
Fear … Recently, it seems to be hanging in the air, actively supported and even fanned by all the media. Clients come in panic, with the question “What will happen? What to do next? " And I, as a psychologist, have to answer. Not for the media, no. After working for nine years on the central channel and knowing this "kitchen", I stopped watching TV altogether, which is what I wish everyone. What to do in a situation when it's just scary? For the future, for children, for the environment, etc., etc
First of all, you need to understand that there is fear and that this is normal. It was originally embedded in us. When a person is not afraid of anything, this is already strange. If there were no fear, we would eat glass, run in front of a rushing truck, grab bare wires … Fear is our defense! And he protects us, of course, from death. It seems to us (I am laying out deliberately oversimplified) if the business collapses, then there will be no money, which means there will be nothing to buy food, which means I will die ?!
The basis is always the acceptance of the fear of Death. She is. Nobody has left yet. But what should we do now? You can talk a lot about death. Of course, fear is best dealt with with a specialist. There are no universal advice here. First, understand that fears can be real (when a truck rushes at you) and unreal (for example, fear of being judged by colleagues). But the physiological mechanism in the body works the same in both cases. With an adrenaline rush, heart palpitations, "increased alertness", etc. Ie. the body works in an accelerated mode, which means it wears out faster! Therefore, by the evening a person feels absolutely exhausted! Do you understand? It doesn't matter to your body whether the fear is real or not. The process is still going on. So why intentionally help him with this by adding contrived fears? By the way, dear ladies, do not be surprised that all sorts of nutritious cosmetic injections do not last long … they are simply devoured by the body in this race. After all, the skin is also an organ that participates in all processes.
Unfortunately, we are simply not aware of most fears, we are accustomed to them and do not notice! There is another extreme: “fight” with fear. You don't have to fight with him! He will win anyway! Because fear is inherent in us by nature! When a person says, “I have overcome my fear,” it is not. First, there are many fears. Secondly, he did not overcome, but suppressed. I drove him somewhere very deep into himself. And sooner or later, this fear will still manifest, but only in the form of some kind of somatic illness. Fear must be accepted as protection and thanked for what it is! Through fear, intuition can sometimes manifest itself, which says: “Don't go there! There ayyayay!"
Once upon a time I was very much shaken by one simple exercise, try it too. To begin with, retire so that no one bothers you. Take a pen and paper. Now imagine that you have only a month left to live. It doesn't matter for what reasons. But this is only one month. How will you conduct it? With whom? What do you do first? Who would you like to see? What to say? Think and write it down. This is the most important thing.
And finally, my favorite parable about Nasruddin.
The cruel and ignorant ruler told Nasrudin:
“I’ll hang you if you don’t prove to me that you really have that deep perception that is attributed to you.
Nasruddin immediately declared that he could see golden birds in the sky and demons of the underworld. The Sultan asked him:
- How can you do this?
“You don’t need anything other than fear,” Mulla replied.
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