2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Often life throws us riddles and puzzles in the form of people, circumstances, controversial issues. It poses a choice, includes unexplained reactions, and sometimes just leads to a dead end. How to deal with adversity or difficult situations? To begin with, you should try to look at what happened from the outside, that is, get out of the "cauldron" of experiences. Only in this way will hidden hints be seen, which subsequently will help to make important understandings. Moreover, if the encoded message is “considered” correctly, then you can not only jump out of the scrape as a winner, but also, at least, accumulate valuable experience for the future, and as a maximum, never get into similar stories again!
So, in order: moving away from the situation, those things that are difficult to see under the captivity of emotions will become obvious, you need to calm down. Then you need to make out thoroughly all the pros and cons. The pluses will become your pillars and resources. Awareness of the supports will give confidence and add optimism, and in the minuses, just a secret message can be found, having studied which there is a chance to get a tremendous therapeutic effect.
Surely you have often heard the phrase that you should not ask Space (God, the Universe, etc.): “Why do I need this?”, More useful and high-quality questions sound like: “Why did this happen to me? What is this leading or pushing me to? What should I (for) live through this situation, do? Having answered these questions, we examine our patterns of behavior and outline the adjustments that, apparently, is the time to make in our lives in order to become happier.
“So simple?” - you ask… simple, but not very, because the answers will not always correspond to expectations and the therapeutic effect, as a rule, is painful - this is inevitable. In addition, you will have to work on yourself, but the game is worth the candle!
What you need to pay attention to:
* the external always corresponds to the internal, if chaos reigns outside in life and in the environment, then it is also storming inside, which means it is worth putting things in order there first;
* what turns us on and knocks us out of the saddle - this is what needs transformation in ourselves, because it has already outlived itself, prevents us from moving on;
* Concentrate in a stressful situation not on losses and unpleasant moments “what I don’t have”, but on what I have, on which I can rely.
When all the described components are found and they are also comprehended, the unlocked information should go to a practical level, namely, into action! Further, in similar situations, we gradually begin to see patterns of behavior more and more often and try to act differently, not as usual. Subsequently, reactions will also be easier to track, they will become calmer, and, then, with a successful study, you can simply slip out of trouble without getting hurt.
If you see invisible communication in all manifestations of life that helps you understand yourself better, then any experience, people, events are perceived with gratitude. Then there is no place for resentment or anger, there is no place for rejection, both yourself and others. Only one nuance needs to be taken into account, at this level of perception of the world, it is necessary to become its spectator, observer … Bezosvalnoy, condescending, learning, interested, and, at times, with a certain amount of irony!
Alena Lumiere - practicing psychologist, master, European PP certification, resource psychotherapy
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