Tips For An Abandoned Man

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

So, dear friend, she's gone.

It doesn't matter for what reasons she did it and who is to blame.

You are now probably sitting in the kitchen, your state is like after a knockdown, and you probably smoke.

I understand you, my friend, you don't smoke here, but you will smoke.

Come on and I'll smoke with you, and I'll tell you what to do now.

Remember, from now on you are sick.

Perceive your state of mind and body as abnormal, like the flu, like the common cold. This will help you protect yourself from doing all sorts of stupid things. And it will also help to realize that the 21st century is in the yard and almost everything can be cured if you do not indulge and do not start the disease.

You will definitely recover, but it will take time.

It is different for everyone.

But tune in for a long treatment - it may take up to 3-5 years for treatment from your life.

But this is in extremely advanced cases.

1. "The Marlboro Cowboy Rule."

Never chase buses and women - you still won't catch up. Any of your words are useless to her now. Do not try to catch up and strive. All of these tips like "stick her to the battery" or "hit the fucking woman" are useless. Block it in all social networks, just block it, and not just delete it - it will flicker in the comments of mutual friends and fiddle with your nerves, and now you don't need it at all. Explain to your parents and loved ones that this is what happened. And tell everyone that you don't need to call her and so on - nothing good will come of it. And yes, block on Lepré too. And on Lovelpre. And then there will be something else.

2. "I love the smell of napalm in the morning."

In the morning on the next weekend, you will get out of bed early and carefully, methodically, consistently and slowly, you will clean up your house from its traces. Of course, everything that she needs, she should already take out, because you are not a warehouse for former women. You need to throw everything away. Everything. Forgotten hairpins, old handbags, thongs from the laundry basket - everything must be destroyed. She gave you a mug "My Man" - fuck a mug, buy a new one. It will take you at least 8 hours, mind you. Less means you have to walk around the apartment again.

3. "We scratch eggs under Mouzon, we spend time usefully."

You now suddenly have a lot of free time. Moreover, there is no need for you to rush home, for no one is waiting for you there. And it won't wait long, it's worth getting used to. And here a rather difficult question arises: what to do with it?

And remember right away: don't drink, don't smoke, don't inject, don't smell. Now you have no cover, you will fly to the bottom instantly. Therefore, carefully filter the help of friends - many friends think that you just need to have a good drink and talk. It's a good thing, just not 5 times in a row. Do not be afraid to refuse your friends, only, of course, by indicating a convenient date for a conversation. Try to do any shit that doesn't require deep mental effort, but requires careful movement. Sport is usually advised and it really helps.

But if the very thought of leaving the house and some kind of socialization is disgusting - find something to do at home. For example, learn how to cook complex dishes - these are guaranteed 4-6 hours, spent with benefit, slightly meditative and in the end you will eat at least deliciously, I suppose you forgot when you did it. Do a complete cleaning so that there is nowhere to spit at home: the classic look of a bachelor is a schmuck overgrown with dirty socks. So try to respect yourself and refute this thesis. And start looking for a hired cleaner little by little, believe me, in a modern city it is extremely inexpensive and very necessary at least once every 2-3 weeks.

4. "All women are bitches."

Of course, you have already understood this capacious thesis and absolutely agree with it! Now, you will bring them out to clean water !! Now you’ll tell everyone what a creature she was, how badly she sucked, how she demanded money and in general she was a bitch !!! Now you can show everyone all her photos of negligee, nude and with sperm on her lips !!!! Already now, you will never trust all the heifers and transverse heifers, you will never let these creatures into your soul, you will live alone for your own sake, as a proud bachelor should !!!!! …

So, let me remind you, my friend - you are sick. All this nonsense, given above, can only be born in the head of a very sick person. Therefore, you will not tell anyone anything about your personal life by word or sound, except for your closest friends. You will collect all of her nudes in a separate archive and close it with a password (you can erase it, but what am I, a sadist or something), you will remember that the most popular reason in divorce documents is "character dissimilarity", you will come up with a neutral analogue and you will only tell everyone his. You will not tell a single girl in any bar or at any party anything about your breakup, the peculiarities of your ex, and also that women are all … well, you understand. Only a narrow circle of the closest people should know how hard it is for you - the rest do not give a fuck, moreover, they will also be glad. For her. Because in these moments you are more pitiful than ever.

5. "Whatever the fool does, he does everything wrong."

After the stage of accusations, there is a stage of blaming herself, self-deprecation, searching for mistakes in her own behavior. You will delve into your last days, weeks, months, trying to find the very moment when everything went wrong, turned in the wrong direction, reproaching yourself for these actions. So, my friend, this is all nonsense. Everything went “wrong” a long time ago, and your actions have nothing to do with it. You can hit her in the face every day - and be forgiving every day, you can be the perfect husband - and at this time she will have a lover who hits her in the face. This is me not in the sense that it was necessary to beat her, this is the lot of assholes, there is nowhere to fall below, I'm now talking about a mysterious female soul. She does not draw conclusions and does not make decisions based on a specific act, it works only with a cumulative effect. You may not have any idea that you have problems, and you are abandoned, because you have not closed the cap on toothpaste for the last three years. Therefore, do not try to look for actions - look for trends, find them and draw conclusions, this is useful for the future.

6. "I'm a good friend to myself."

The peculiarity of a man in a long-term relationship is that he personally, in fact, does not need much. He gets used to the family / girlfriend as an integral part of himself, so all the benefits that he obtains go to both, and not one.

Therefore, after the breakup of a couple, a man often asks the question: “Well, this apartment / car / TV set / new pan - why do I need them now? What am I going to do with all this, I don't need anything! I have a piece of bread / a glass of vodka / clean socks - that's enough! For whom should I now build a nest, build a life, in general, why all this ?!”.

Do you still remember that you are sick? So, these thoughts are the fruit of a sick imagination. You lived beautifully before her, you lived alone for yourself - and was that bad? In the near future, you will have to learn again one very useful and forgotten skill - to respect and love yourself. Since you have a lot of free time and no one is waiting for you at home, you will work hard. You will work hard and earn a lot. You will be able to buy yourself previously hard-to-find things. You can pamper yourself, buying not only what you need at the moment, but simply because you liked it. You will finally have a suit not for a dozen from Sudar, but for a hundred - individual tailoring. You will always have the best stuff and gimmicks. Once every three months you will make a gift to yourself and buy something you want, regardless of the price. You will be much more successful than before she left - and you will feel it. You will finally learn to love and respect yourself as a whole person, and not as a “half”. And believe me, all the girls around will feel it, and you will never be left alone. Even if you really want it.

7. "More women to god women."

You have a feeling of utter loneliness, and you will try with all your might to make up for it with someone. So, do not rush to do this. You now have a hole in your soul, something like a shotgun point-blank, and trying to seal it with quick "new love" is like patching this hole with a plaster from calluses. Exhale, pause. Do not worry that you will no longer have women - I guarantee, my friend, that they will educate themselves from nowhere and surround you. They will even accumulate. It's okay, use them as intended, sleep with them, walk with them, drink with them, but don't give them vain hopes. Of course, you are not a complete asshole, and you will not take revenge on them, they are not at all to blame that their sister turned out to be a bitch. Behave, but don't let them in yet. While it's a bit early, let the hole in your soul be quietly overgrown.

8. "I am like a wooden, accursed fool."

At some point, you will stop feeling anything at all, any emotions, joy, sadness, fear, hatred. There will be an almost physical feeling of a stone in the chest. There will be absolute calmness in all situations and universal pokhuizm at its best. So, my friend, as I said above, this is normal, this is the protection of the soul, it has been encapsulated, has built up a crust and patches holes in itself. It will go over time, just be patient. True, here you may have to endure for years. Live evenly, breathe through your nose.

9. "Napoleon in my age already fucked everything up."

In the process of recovery (do you remember that you are sick?), All sorts of sorrowful thoughts will arise that by your many years you have not gained anything, no family, no children, one finger, nothing, and all that rest. Usually, it does not occur to me to assess the material difference "I am now - I am 5 years ago", basically, everything depends on the family, they say, oh, I am so many years old, but who will need me now, only a divorcee with three trailers from three fathers. So, my friend, everything will be exactly the opposite. If you do everything right in the course of treatment, if you work normally, you will naturally become rich, you will be a successful and experienced man - and such people do not remain alone. The general trend of recent times, which I noticed quite a long time ago, is that the difference of 10-15 years within a pair is not considered and is not unusual. On the contrary, girls about 23-27 years old themselves are in a deep search for an independent, confident, experienced man. Not a sugar daddy - this is a completely different position, thanks to the experience you have gained, you will cut off on the approach. Men, husband, master of the family. This trend, although extremely offensive for feminists, exists and is extensive.

And then, my dear friend, a strange person will appear, who is completely uncomfortable, somehow strange, it seems that does not suit you at all - and the crust in that very capsule-soul crunches a little. No, this is not a crack where there is, but you will get so used to absolute impenetrability that you will even be surprised. You are afraid to scare away, so at first you will not do anything. Just absolutely nothing, no hints and desires. However, quietly, carefully, gently, this person will begin to scratch, drill, scrape the capsule, very carefully, sometimes running into dangerous places, getting a click on the nose, and sometimes an explosion in full. But this person will not give up and will continue his strange, for some reason he needs the path.

But suddenly something starts to work out for her. And you suddenly spend three weeks in a row with one girl and notice that you feel good again. And they take care of you and you want this care again. And it knocks out the crust on the hole to hell. And you feel that the disease has passed, that you are absolutely healthy. And outside there is a thin wall, with a barely noticeable scar, again completely accessible to this person, only to him. For some reason you seem to be defenseless again, but for some reason you trust this feeling, despite all your previous experience. For some reason you trust someone again. And you will be good and happy, my friend, when you hug her, stealthily approaching from behind. Again. Only a little scared that everything will break again. But this fear will pass, I know that it will pass.

And you will completely forget how long and painfully you once were sick, because it does not matter at all now. It is important that she is near, and you are now, right now, breathing from the back of her head.

10. "The fool steps on the same rake twice."

A person who is completely uncomfortable, somehow strange, does not seem to suit you at all, a person who will not give up and continue his strange, for some reason, the necessary path to pulling you out of the soul capsule has his own reserve of patience, his own resource. While you are scared to get out of the capsule, he will generously spend this resource on you, and this resource will be replenished slowly.

And you, rejoicing in your recovery, all on positive emotions, will not notice how this most important person for you is melting. It will seem to you that its charge is eternal. You will subconsciously discard all hints that he and you, so fucking awesome, might be missing something. And this person will take care of making you feel fucking awesome. Because she truly loves you.

And here it is important not to screw up this person, but to start pouring your resource into him. Feel free not only to show your feelings, but also to talk about them. What men consider to be brutal restraint, women perceive as indifference. It is important to understand that this person has his own wishes, dreams, plans. And they need to be pulled out of him, no matter how he kicks. Because he will be afraid of losing you and will try not to bother you with anything. We must listen to all the hints. “I don’t need an official marriage, although it would probably be fun to call you husband” = “I want a normal family, don’t hesitate with the proposal”. "I don't want children, I have enough worries without them … although you can hire a nanny for the children." = "I want children, I feel flawed without them." Etc.

Here you need to show what is called responsibility. Answer honestly to yourself - is this person so dear to you that you want to help fulfill his wishes? If you are dear, you need to harness yourself without putting the matter on the back burner - for women time flies faster than for men If freedom is more expensive, you must honestly tell that you understood her desires by speaking these desires out loud, but you do not have the strength to realize them, and we must part, so as not to suffer. By doing this, you will do bad to the person who did only good to you, but you will give him certainty and untie his hands.

If a person is not given freedom, but allowed to stay with you on your terms, or simply dismiss all hints and smugly believe that he is already good - you are, the person will burn out imperceptibly for you. The resource that he was ready to share will run out. And at one fine moment, after the next "love" will sound "but we need to leave."

And here you will blaze. Denial, anger, bargaining. And the person will no longer need anything from you. He will have only disappointment in you and emptiness, which can no longer be corrected by anything. Neither a proposal to marry, have children, nor an explanation that you understood everything. And your personal hell will begin. Which is being treated. See point 1.