2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Life around us is constantly changing, regardless of us, there are changes in society, politics, nature, we ourselves change our life, choosing certain roads. But every choice and every change is a rejection of the way it was before, and each of us experiences these changes in different ways: you can rejoice at the new and quickly forget about the old, be sad that everything is not so now, take a long time to adapt or quickly get used to it. There are many options, they are unique for each of us.
I know from myself that it is not always easy to accept changes in your life, even if they are good. A number of mistakes can be made that make it difficult to accept and adapt to a new situation:
- skip the stage of saying goodbye to the old, that is, pretend that there was nothing at all before, thereby not assimilating the old experience, - to devalue past experience, thereby helping oneself, as it were, to forcibly fall in love with a new situation, but also hindering the assimilation and acceptance of the experience of past events, - to miss the joy of the new, not giving yourself the opportunity to enjoy the moment.
Therefore, I share my vision of how it is possible to live the changes in your life: ⠀
Stage 1. Farewell to the old
This stage will allow then not to look back all the time and think how ‘there and then’ it was wonderful. At this stage, the appropriation of the experience that you received takes place, that is, you become the owner of the knowledge, skills, experience that you received.
At this stage, it is important to experience two poles of emotions:
- joy and gratitude for what happened, recognition of the value of past events or recognition of what new qualities or skills you have acquired thanks to him.
Focusing on positive experiences allows you not to devalue the experience. Of course, if we are talking about complex events, you just need to try to find what appeared in you due to the fact that they happened - these can be new qualities, stability, strength of mind.
- sadness, anger and regret that something in your life is over. ⠀
In fact, any change is parting with something that you will no longer have, and here, as with any loss, there is an element of grief, its strength depends on how important and valuable was what is leaving your life.
Also, at the parting stage, you can try to make for yourself a list of what kind of experience and skills you are ready to take with you further in life, and which one you would like to leave in the past.
Stage 2. Orientation in a new situation
At this stage, it is important to take a close look at what you now have. This stage will help ensure your own safety in the new situation. At this stage, it is important to "twist your head" strongly: what is around you now, what place, people, processes.
Stage 3. Finding your attitude to a new situation
Saying goodbye to the old and taking a good look around, you can explore your attitude to the new situation, where there will be not only a comparison (now not the way it was), but also a remark about reality - its pros and cons, new opportunities and limitations. By doing this without constantly turning back, there is more resources to move forward.
The steps seem to sound simple, but it is important for everyone to devote time and energy, to give yourself a break for these processes. And it can take a lot of time and mental strength to live significant changes in your life.
If you are experiencing similar processes, come to a consultation, where there will be both time and place for conscious living of changes!
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