What Is Your Image Of Money?

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

I am sure that the more the psychologist had his own problems, into which he immersed himself and worked, the better he can understand the client with similar questions and, accordingly, help in solving them, because he himself went through it

Today I want to share with you one of my realizations about money. Before that, it seemed to me that I had already worked out a lot in this matter. Indeed, the financial situation has improved significantly. I began to work less and earn more, but at some stage I discovered a fear of bigger money.

I understood that I was still spinning around a certain amount and could not break out of it. And these limitations were in my subconscious, in my personal image of money.

I have repeatedly asked myself the question, if I want to travel more around the world and come to visit my friend in Brazil - why can't I do it at this stage? What limits me? And most importantly, what to do to make this dream come true? Moreover, it was realized not by hard exhausting work, but easily, simply and joyfully. After all, it happens to someone!

In one book I found an interesting task, where I had to present my image of money as if it were a person and ask myself a few simple questions about who this person is, what I am in relation to him and what kind of relationship we have. After completing this task, I was upset, because the situation turned out to be more sad than I expected. After all, there were already a lot of elaborations and realizations behind.

The image of money has merged with the figure of my father, who is big, domineering, cold, detached and unpredictable - he stands somewhere on a dais and decides how much to give me and whether to give at all. According to my feelings, this image of a “money man” is generally reluctant to give me something, as if not understanding why I should give at all. I timidly try to explain to him that I am a person, I need money in order to live and not just live, but in order to also allow myself some kind of joy.

And I am standing below such a small, pitiful defenseless victim, unworthy even to declare my needs. I stand almost with outstretched hand and am afraid to declare that I want more, because in return I can get discontent, censure and anger. And my voice is so quiet, indistinct and like babbling. Whether he will hear me or not, I don’t know.

Then I had to ask myself the question - what will happen if this "man-money" disappears from my life?

I listened to myself and replied that I would not survive without money. If this “money man” leaves my life, I will be ashamed that I am a beggar, because my dad often laughed and belittled the poor. He was glad that he was not like that, and he himself was once able to escape from poverty. In addition, if he leaves, he may never return. And this means that I have to be careful, economical, to behave "correctly", not to spend a lot, what if the money will not come any more? Fearfully…

As soon as I realized this image, it immediately became clear why I could not go beyond a small amount of money coming, and who in my life determines how much money comes into my life. The image of money in my head limits my income and the fulfillment of desires.

At the same time, I was visiting my mother. She periodically complains that everything is expensive and there is nowhere to get a job and that at her age, nothing is possible at all. He saves a lot and is afraid to be left without money at all. She does not see any options from where the money can come to her, except for a pension and help for children. (By the way, please note that I am writing about my mother's experience with her permission).

One evening she ran out of her room excited and almost gladly told me that a wave of suicides had swept through our city among big businessmen. I noted to myself this non-standard reaction of hers.

In the morning, she again began to complain about the lack of funds. From experience I already know that if a person lives in such a state, then this is only his subconscious attitude. I tell her about it, and she is surprised. I offered to find out her image of money and get her consent.

Mom began to imagine her image of money. And at first it poured out in a stream that money is so cool, that it is a joy that it is a super duper and she loves it so much, you can buy a lot of things with it, travel and distribute it to those in need. Her story was joyful and emotional. Simply put, she blurted out to me all the positive information that she had read about money in smart books, passing it off as her own reality. This is called self-deception and people, indeed, often live in such illusions about their attitudes.

Okay, I said, since you have such a super cool image of money, why do you have so little of it? Mom sagged. I began to repeat the question to her: "What image of money do you really have?" More than a minute passed, and in a sad voice, exhaling heavily, she answered me: "I'm afraid of them …". And this was already true, she became real and spoke from the depths of her subconscious.

She told me how, as a child, her father came and scattered small change on the floor "from the master's hand", and she, a little girl, crawled and collected pennies. How she begged for a few cents to go to the cinema, but he would not give her. All the children fled to the cinema, and she stayed at home and cried. She had an understanding that only men, and not herself, can earn and give out money. So I have to ask others, because I myself am not able to do anything. And you also need to adapt to your husband or another "giver", play his game and pretend, put on masks, not be yourself. Indeed, if she shows herself real, she can be left without money and die.

Then she said that she was confident that if she had a lot of money, the people close to her would turn away from her, betray or even she would face death. Or they will treat it insincerely, use it for money. It turns out that big money for her is death and suffering, so she does not allow big money to enter her life.

In the subconscious there is a choice - OR money, OR good relations with relatives and with people. And that's why relationships and life are chosen. Then I reminded her of the case of the suicides of businessmen. So that's why she was happy, and this joy did not escape me! She was not happy about the death of others, she was glad that she survived herself! As if her subconscious mind confirmed its position - you are doing everything right, you survived, but they did not. You see, big money doesn’t lead to good, so it’s better without them at all. From the outside it looked like this: it's good that she doesn't have a lot of money, because they kill for it, because of it they end their lives by suicide! Mom agreed that it was.

In fact, among the suicides there are people of different social categories, and the main reasons: unrequited love, abandonment, loneliness, fear, etc. But if in the subconscious there is an installation that money is life-threatening, then a person will believe that this happened due to the presence of some amount of money.

Mom is also afraid that the money that has come may go away and never come again, so they need to be squeezed, saved, kept in every possible way, not to buy too much.

After we sorted out her image of money, it became obvious why she does not allow herself to have more of them than is necessary for the living wage. Mom, once again, seriously thought about this issue. And I want to believe that in the near future her life will become much brighter and more abundant. She will open up to meet the gifts of the Universe and forget about how expensive everything is and will heal with a full rich life.

The first steps have already been taken. The image of money was found out. Then we threw out of her apartment the old rubbish, which had been stored for 20 years. Sold gold jewelry with a sad story, army boots of the ex-husband, who has long lived with the other. They threw away everything that she did not use, but kept just in case. And she immediately felt better, there was lightness, joy, some money and, most importantly, the desire to do something and take responsibility for her life into her own hands.

For myself, I concluded that we have exactly as much money as we need based on our image in the subconscious. By changing this image, each of us changes our reality. This applies to both money and everything.

The change of the image begins with its awareness, understanding what it is like with us and, most importantly, what feelings we experience when we come into contact with this image. This is followed by work on yourself. Some of the techniques for rewriting images can be done by yourself, but money blocks are associated not only with attitudes-programs, there are also patterns of behavior, generic and family scenarios, prohibitions on implementation in the world, on success, on development, the desire to be "like everyone else" ("Good", "correct" …), the desire to be exactly the same as the parents, various types of fears and much more.

I wanted to change the image of money, and I rewrote it as follows. Dad with his money pushed aside, where he calmly manages and counts them, and in front of me appeared the edge of the forest, on which the cash flow falls from the sky. I understand that if I wish, I can easily and freely approach this mountain of money and take as much as I need for my needs. Nobody is the main and significant one who determines how much to give me and whether to give at all.

There was another series of realizations, some of which I passed myself, and some of which were helped by various specialists. It was a step-by-step work on applying techniques, changing points of support, identifying automatic reactions to interacting with finances, identifying feelings associated with receiving and spending money, negative associations of wealth, fears that relatives would envy me, that they would turn away, and much more.

What happened as a result?

In reality, pretty soon, after a few months, things got better with money, and six months later there were even more changes. We moved to the city center to an excellent two-room apartment, I began to receive money from various sources, not only from a single employer and, accordingly, became less dependent on him, switched to hourly wages. I noticed that as soon as my husband and I plan an expensive education or a vacation trip, which I really want to do, the money starts to quickly flow into our accounts.

By the way, in those moments when I slipped into the old thinking, fears, money did not come or came with difficulty. But, the more the awareness of money programs, beliefs, beliefs, fears grew - the understanding that everything depends on me grew, and then there was even more confidence in the world that it cares about us. And this is just the beginning of the journey.

Admitting our failures, working with negative programs - such work can be painful at first, because we usually do not like to hear unpleasant things about ourselves. However, it is worth crossing this threshold, which is painful for the EGO, and admitting its responsibility, as it turns out that everything is not so scary as it seems at first. Having accepted what is now, having understood the reason, we learn to manage our destiny, finances, relationships. We have not been given freedom of choice in vain.

Have you ever wondered what kind of money you have? Does this image hinder or help you, and do you want to change it? You can gradually change it yourself. If you wish, you can speed up the process so as not to get bogged down in independent studies for many years. You can solve these issues with a specialist who will highlight and point out those things that we desperately do not want to notice (they are in our "blind zone"), help to work them out in the fastest and most effective way.

I wish you well and the fulfillment of desires in any area of life, not only financial, because this is just one of the facets necessary for a full life of every person.

Irina Stetsenko