2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Not so long ago, quite unexpectedly for me (and all of us), my mother died. She was not yet an old person, she was not particularly ill … but her eyes did not burn. There was little in her life that made her happy and she didn’t really want to live (I later analyzed and understood this). At first I was in some shock, stupor. Worried, did nothing, almost. I thought a lot … and rethought and understood a lot. And most importantly, life is so fleeting and flows away like sand through our fingers, and we don't even have time to really live … I want to share some thoughts and understandings with you:
1. You need to live here and now and right now, because life is so short and it is not known how much each of us is measured. So why live with dreams or thoughts of the past - you need to enjoy today!
I have heard these phrases many times - "To live for today", "To be here and now", but only now I fully understood and felt their meaning on myself, I just felt it …
2. Wear the best and most comfortable things, do not save anything in the wardrobe and in the sideboard - use everything that you have. For what and for whom do you save all this (if you save it)? For children? Do you think they will carry your new, folded in closet and never dressed things? Or maybe they will be delighted that they inherited an already faded, but never used tea set?
I'm sure not! Everyone has their own tastes, everyone chooses his own things, dishes, furniture, bed linen and everything else and you don't need to store it for anyone / anything - take it and use it right now!
3. Throw away everything unnecessary, do not plant a warehouse of old unnecessary things at home - this also does not make anyone happy, but only takes away energy and space!
4. Many times I came across the phrase in social networks: "Be busy!". Somehow I didn’t catch it before, but now I’m ready to tell everyone and everyone: - Be busy, and what you like! Change jobs if you are not satisfied with yours! You cannot change jobs, find something you like, get yourself a hobby, communicate with people who share your interests! Do what brings you joy, otherwise what's the point of doing something?
5. Surround yourself with those people with whom it is pleasant and comfortable for you to communicate! Spend more time (just quality time when you communicate, talk, discuss something, and not just be present) with your family, children, parents! Find like-minded people, people who share your interests! Try to communicate more with them, and not with those whom you have to endure and on whom to spend your precious hours and minutes of life. Part with no regrets with those with whom you have nothing to do together. This is your life, you live it the way you want. The way it is best for you, and not for someone! T Maybe this sounds selfish, but otherwise you risk living your life joylessly and sadly, adjusting to someone, and not pleasing yourself!
6. Develop all the time, read a lot, delve deeper and learn more and more about what you are interested in! First, it will prevent you, your brain, from getting rusty. Secondly, with a well-read and knowledgeable person, it is always pleasant to keep up a conversation, and thirdly, you will not lose interest in life at any age and you will simply have no time to get sick if you are something (or maybe someone) will be passionate about!
7. Don't forget about rest! Pause in our hectic days, relax, enjoy nature, birds singing, be sure to walk, go somewhere and do what you like, what you enjoy and then feel a burst of energy!
8. Love! Love yourself first! Watch your health, give yourself physical activity, do not overeat, do not abuse … well, you know everything yourself! Just love yourself, allow yourself whatever you want, but only in moderation and not to the detriment!
9. Give joy and smiles! Be positive, look for the pluses in everything that happens to you and around you, and over time you will notice that you no longer need to look for these pluses, everything that happens is always with a "+" sign! Yes - this is how it works, tested on my own experience!
I wish you all awareness and love! Let the light in your eyes never go out!
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