Healthy Aggression

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Healthy aggression

Ad gressere means "to approach something or someone." Aggression is a "step towards" an object.

Frederick Perls distinguished between paranoid aggressiveness aimed at destroying the enemy and biological aggressiveness necessary to preserve the species. Biological aggressiveness is a vital impulse.

Types of aggression:

1. Annihilation (lat. "Complete destruction").

A type of aggression that is close to the usual understanding as destructive and harmful behavior. This aggression is fueled by despair. There is so much tension inside that a person cannot cope and destroys others and himself. For example, the beatings scandal, alcoholism, suicide.

2. Constructive.

This is the necessary aggression, changing the space for itself to meet urgent needs, including those related to physical survival.

In a litter of puppies, the quietest and quietest - less viable.

“In gestalt, the therapist sometimes stimulates the client's aggressiveness: to help a shy and downtrodden person to express themselves, to give dynamism to the depressive and to bring the masochist out of torpor” - F. Perls.

Perls argued that even when we eat an apple, we show dental aggression. We bite into the skin and pulp with our teeth, bite off and chew, rub with the movements of the jaw. And if you do not show such aggression, a threat to physical existence looms on the horizon.

Serge Ginger believed that aggression was necessary to preserve his own place in the world. It should not be confused with destructive violence.

If you are soft and gentle, then it is important to protect yourself.

The snail has a soft body on the inside and a hard shell on the outside. Carapace - shelter and protection from the enemy.

When you defend personal boundaries, keep a safe distance and protect personal space - be healthy aggressive.

There is an expression: "Be simple - and people will be drawn to you."

And for what purpose will they reach?

The famous phrase implies that with good. But it happens that with cunning and meanness.

And then you simplify, rush to meet, remove obstacles in communication. And people suddenly find themselves on your head and stomp their feet there. And only healthy aggressiveness can drive them out of there.

In Runaway Bride, Meg's entourage made fun of her escape from weddings.

Hayk showed aggression and defended the girl, wishing: “To make you the center of an easy target. To be publicly whipped for your wrong decisions."

When her father tried to stab her again, she stopped him for the first time and said it was humiliating.

The daughter made contact with her father and expressed her feelings. Previously, in the background of her communication with her father, resentment and resentment accumulated, which made the relationship deteriorate.

Maggie showed aggression when she stopped her father. But the energy of aggression went to improve relations with the father and release from reservations and pain.

Aggression is aimed at:

-protection;

-approach in contact and interaction;

- discharge of energetic excitement;

- curbing anxiety and fear …

How do you like this view of aggression?