How To Show Love For Yourself

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Many have read or heard about the book “5 languages of love”. We mainly think about them in relation to our partners. However, we can apply these languages in relation to ourselves. I will even say that, first of all, we must learn to express our love languages on ourselves, to provide them for ourselves on our own, and only then we will be able to convey them to our companions. It so happens that our partners can not quite give us the love language that we need most, but they pamper us with something else. In order not to quarrel too much with your beloved on this topic, you need to take care of yourself on your own.

⦁ Words of approval. How often do you tell yourself that you are smart, praise yourself, say words of support and sympathy to yourself, show attention and care to your condition? Write down your strengths and what you like about yourself and remember this. Let your inner critic speak quietly and make way for an inner support group.

For example, I often hear girls say to themselves: "Rag, get yourself together." Well, it sounds humiliating to yourself. It's not even funny. And if it causes laughter, then it is sadness laughter. Tell yourself: "my dear, come on, do it, do not be afraid, you will succeed, you can."

⦁ Quality time. Spend more time each day in activities that bring you joy and pleasure. Sleep is important, the absence of overwork (do not exhaust yourself at work, work without lunch and weekends), pay attention to your hobbies and hobbies, sports, if you enjoy it, and also do not forget about entertainment, friends, walks and what you like.

⦁ Receiving gifts. Start by buying yourself only what you like. Don't let unpleasant things appear in your home and closet (get rid of those that are already there). Let it grow into your cherished desires such as traveling to the Maldives, riding an elephant or jumping with a parachute (each has its own).

⦁ Acts of service. A vivid example from life: I want a chocolate bar at 12 at night, and for myself I don't go to the store. And when my beloved voiced “I want a chocolate bar,” I’m ready to go for him (though with him). And here I manifest an act of service to my beloved, but I do not manifest the same act of service to myself. This is when I am not lazy to do something in relation to myself. Acts of service can be understood by comparing what you are willing to do for others and what you are not doing for yourself. It is important to start serving yourself.

⦁ Physical touch: self-massage, manicure, pedicure, masks, peels, baths, showering, exercising, you can hug yourself, stroke your hand, leg and feel the softness of your skin, smear your body with a pleasant cream or oil. Feel in touch with your body. Let him know that you love him.

Choose from this what you like the most and let it be your daily goal, even if it is one thing, but every day, you will notice a change over time.

From the seminar "on self-love"