2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Since childhood, we have formed a certain behavior model and life scenario, based on the conditions and environment in which we grew and developed.
What is "good" and "bad", how "can" and how "not", rules of conduct, etc.📝
These forms can be both resourceful, supportive, and restrictive.
For example, it is “good” to be humble and share your candy with others. But, depending on the context and circumstances, this "good" can have different effects on the formation of the psychological boundaries of the child 🙅🏼
You can share from desire, or you can - from what is "needed." That's what mom / dad said.
So an adult grows up who follows this rule all his life - to give to others, because this is "necessary". And why, and why, and who needs it? Do I need it? It is not clear 🤷🏼♀️A not because “I want to”, “I still have”, etc.
Naturally, there will be questions with the ability to say "no", hearing your desires and their satisfaction. Actions are often possible, and indeed the whole life, to the detriment of oneself, one's needs. Everything is "for the good" of someone 👉🏼
There is a bias towards the importance of someone else, there is no value and a sense of one's own needs.
What can and should be done ❓
An allegory from the rules of conduct on an airplane in case of emergency is perfect:
“First put on an oxygen mask on yourself, then on the child” ❗️
We take away energy, vitality, joy and inspiration when we do not allow ourselves that notorious "trifle, but nice". When we do not know our desires, what we want, what is pleasant and what pleases.
‼ ️ Assignment: set aside time and write 100 of your wishes. Anything from small to large. To fulfill one of them today.
Surround yourself with pleasant people, do your favorite things more often, talk about good things, dream and allow yourself to have it - love your life and everything that you put into it and its meaning ♥ ️
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