How To Find A Lesson To Your Liking: 16 Questions To Be Answered

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Only those who are happy and free experience real pleasure in life. A simple English guy named Gary did not know this. He studied law at the prestigious University of Oxford. Then he got a job in a cool international consulting company. Having made a career, he began to receive a lot of money. He had what the bugger-rogue, posing against the backdrop of expensive cars, can only dream of.

But one day Gary Stoker realized that he did not want to be a lawyer and engage in boring and dirty corporate affairs. After all, he became a lawyer only to please his mother. He began to think about how to find something to do. Fortunately, he was lucky: he met an old friend who took him as a partner and together they founded a traveling circus. Now the lucky Gary, absolutely happy with life, travels around England and puts on a show where he plays the role of a man-cannonball.

He said, “I hate my job! What should I do?"

I remember one guy who came to me for a free consultation. He said he hated his job but didn't know what to do. “I can't leave,” he finished.

- Why? I asked.

- What am I going to do ?! What to do? I don’t know what I want.

Fear stops us. He closes from us those opportunities that life generously throws before us. Fear blocks the voice of intuition, which is a connection with our spirituality. When you stop being afraid (this can be achieved within 1-2 sessions of spiritual coaching), your eyes slowly open and you begin to see much more than before.

Therefore, before asking the questions “what should I do? how can I find it? ", ask yourself the very first and most important question:" What am I afraid of? " And carefully write down all the answers that the unconscious will give you. This may take several days. Then, with the help of the techniques of working on yourself, which are at the II stage of the School of Systemic Development, you will be able to deal with all this.

The terrible secret of choosing a profession

After you've dealt with your fear, the next thing you need to do is understand why you don't want to do more of what you are doing.

Are you dissatisfied with the amount of money you are getting?

Don't you like the profession itself?

Did your parents make you get it?

Did you decide to do this business for reasons of prestige?

Were you attracted by the fact that the profession promised to be highly paid?

Why do you need to answer these questions? It's simple: you clarify the true motives behind the decision to choose this or that profession, to do a certain thing. These reasons may turn out to be a tub of cold water for you by the collar and consciousness may refuse to admit them. The main thing here is not to back down and honestly admit the truth, no matter how unpleasant it may be.

You will be greatly surprised when you realize that the vast majority of people choose a profession, guided by considerations of prestige, social status, "dust-free", money and preferences that they can get on it, and not at all by reasons of vocation. Although the terrible truth is that money, status and success are given by activities that are somewhat far from direct professional responsibilities.

Four levels

Thoroughly worn out by a giant army of mediocre copy-and-paste artists who churn out mediocre content every minute, the truth says that you will achieve true success only by doing the work that you truly love. However, this is not the whole truth.

You should go through several levels.

The first is the spiritual level. This is an understanding of her life mission, the key task of the soul with which she incarnated on earth. This is a search for an answer to the question: Why, in the name of what will I do this?

You can spend a significant amount of time doing this search. Perhaps years and decades. Or go through a session on clarifying the purpose and get an answer in a shorter time.

The second level is the level of true desire. This is an honest and truthful answer to the question: What do I want to do, what to do? Here, too, it is very difficult to do without the help of a professional, because, as Freud noted, a person is inclined to lie to himself and pass off parental instructions, ideas from books and bright advertising brochures as his true desires.

The third level is the ability level. This is what I, in principle, can do. As in that joke: "I can dig, I can not dig, I can pick my nose." Here you will need not one, but a whole series of questions:

- What can I do?

- What do I do best?

- Under what conditions do I feel comfortable doing business?

- What kind of activities is given to me as naturally as possible?

The fourth level is the social (supersystem) level. This is the question: "What does the other (the world) need from this?" This is an important question, since you receive money for your work and creativity not from the universe, birds and mythical spirits, but from very specific people.

The ideal choice for an activity to your liking is a complete and deep alignment of your mission with what you really want to do (your desires, inclinations and interests), with what you can do (having the appropriate abilities, genetic characteristics, skills, etc.) and the demand for this occupation (products of this business) among other people.

The last point is especially important because it requires an adequate perception of reality. Otherwise, there is a high probability that you simply will not see, will not notice (due to the slagging of your perception) those people and niches in which the product of your business will be snapped up like hot cakes.

I will warn you right away that putting this whole scheme together is a rather difficult and complex task on your own, since it requires developed intuition, certain competencies, special technology, systems thinking, strategic vision and the ability to cover the entire map as a whole. If you do not have this, then you do not need to be upset - you can always use the help of a professional.

3 most important questions

And finally, the final questions, which, in fact, should be at the very beginning.

- Do I really want to find what I like to do?

- Am I ready to spend time, effort and money to create a project of my business?

- Am I ready to implement this project in spite of difficulties, mistakes and failures?

If the answer is yes, then everything is fine. You are ready. And I can say with all confidence that you will surely, like Gary Stoker and thousands of other people, find something that will bring you pleasure, recognition, respect, money and deep satisfaction from the knowledge that you are really doing an important and necessary business.

If you are interested in professional help in finding your business, in the area of self-realization, vocation, then sign up right now for a free consultation. Why waste time?