2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Recently, a family came to me for help. Rather, the dad, who did not know how to continue to live in such an environment. Mom looked very tired and exhausted, and the girl, 8 years old (an amazingly beautiful child), was simply confused. All three had a sense of impasse and hopelessness …
The fact is that the girl was adopted by these wonderful people 7 years ago.
6 years of family happiness, love and harmony !!! What could be better? And then one day my daughter, having come from a walk, asked: "Why am I not like you?" From this question, fear, confusion and horror settled in their house! The girl really did not look like either mom or dad. It turned out that they, the parents, were not at all ready for such a question. A whole year of torment and anxiety, fears and depression: "how to be?", "What to do?", "What if he finds out?", "Won't forgive!" During this year of continuous nightmares, my mother passed - a bad dream, problems at work and completely unimportant relations with her husband. Husband - dad, also did not shine with optimism. One girl lived for a whole year not knowing what was going on!
It took us four long meetings to put everything in place in their family. It was a big and difficult work on beliefs, habits, stereotypes, fears. And when the parents were ready to tell everything to their daughter, I offered to do it on the same day!
When mom finished her story, the daughter smiled, went up to her and dad, hugged them and said: "The main thing is that you love me! And I love you even more!" They cried from happiness, from getting rid of the "burden of the past" and hugged! And I caught myself thinking that it was not in vain that I had lived another day on Earth and had done something good.
What do I mean by all this? It is necessary to be sincere and real! Children really need it! They need to be loved and able to talk to him.
And that's it! Everything else will follow … Here's a story …
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