The Prohibition To Desire

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Yesterday, during a meeting with a client, a question was raised about money and an internal ban on what we would like.

Many desires that appear in the client, she immediately, at the start of their formation, puts in the unattainable section. Always matching them to your financial situation.

- I can’t buy myself something or go on a trip because I don’t have enough money. I can’t wish it, because I know that I don’t have enough money anyway.

And the most interesting thing is that with such an attitude, they really will always be missed.

Have you ever heard what people say?

- I can’t afford it.

- I want to go to Asia, but it is very dear to me.

- I want my own house, but I will never have it.

Yes, you will not have it. Because at the stage of the formation of a desire, you have already written it down in the section of the unfulfillable. And you will not strive in this direction so that it comes true.

The inner prohibition on a good life, where I can be happy and get what I want - these are social beliefs that were formed by previous generations. It is customary in our society to suffer and always complain about the lack of something, for example, the same money. Even if they are.

We grew up in a deficit environment. Now, when we can already afford a lot, we doubt, there is no gratitude for this.

How about the beggar's syndrome?

He always saves, calculates his finances so that there is enough for everything. Buys nothing extra. He does not get rid of old things, accumulates, repairs them, sews them up. He thinks that in this way one day he will become a little rich. Or, holding money in his hands, he does not spend. He lives in poverty, but there is a false feeling that he is rich.

These are the manifestations and signs of a person who will never become happy and rich. A program of economy, restrictions and internal poverty is already sewn into it. If you do not reprogram yourself, he will always be squeezed in his actions, desires. Even if money appears, he will not be able to calmly spend it on himself and his want. And if it does, it will creak like a curmudgeon.

As a result, he does not enjoy what he has acquired. He will always have unforeseen expenses, even if he has a reserve of money - the washing machine will break down, his health has given way, etc.

So, the very first mistake is to forbid oneself to desire something internally. To assume that I am not worthy.

The second is the belief that the amount of money, the presence or absence of it, shapes my desire.

It works exactly the opposite - at first the desire is formed. If it is material, I will find out its approximate cost. Then I form a field around me where I can earn money for what I want or somehow get what I want (often even as a gift).

Start the reboot path with the head, inner inhibitions and beliefs.

What if you start dreaming without limiting yourself?

What's on your list?

I sometimes instruct clients to make a list of impossible tasks and desires.

Often on this list are true desires, which the brain and habitual limiting beliefs include in the list of impossible.

Having written a list of impossible things and desires, it is important to understand that they are quite real. They need to be made feasible. We rewrite, legalize in the second list and start with the words - WANT.

This applies to material desires, relationships, actions, internal development. Everything you put off.

Do not think about how this should happen. Just move in the direction. Guys, I'm not talking about positive psychology right now, but about what is important to declare to myself - I am, I want this, I have the right to this, I strive for this. Actually, we think we have a car of time, but this is not so. The end is near, every year it literally breathes down your back.

About 8 years ago, I went to meditations related to visualization and the formation of desires. Then the coach told us:

- When we allow ourselves to desire something inwardly, we begin to strain our brain a lot about how it should happen. We strain and want to control this process. This prevents the magic from happening.

When you enter a dark room and turn on the light, you do not think at this moment how energy flows through the wires, how light appears in a lamp. Do not try to control this process. I want to light up the room - I press on, I get it.

So it is with desires - I want, I write down, I form in myself, and then I don’t know what exactly will happen. I believe, I want and give a chance for this to happen.

Well, of course, not sitting on the couch, but performing a series of actions.

For example, I want to go to Japan. Earlier it seemed to me that this is a different world, it is unrealistic and expensive. And she just put it off. If I get that desire and dust it off, I'll want it again. I will understand that, in general, this is quite real. I will leave the opportunity for this to happen. At the same time, I will look at what documents are needed for a visa, what is the cost of accommodation and flight. I will internally form and understand how much money I need for each stage, and gradually move towards this.

Of course, I write about seemingly obvious things, but I myself tend to forget about it and slip into the usual mode of economy and negative beliefs.

Remember, the coolest and most successful people who have accomplished something started out by allowing themselves to want. Then it took them some time to pull it off. They built a field around themselves where their desire could be realized.