A Person Walking (for Therapy). Expectation And Reality

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

When I was in my first years of college, it seemed to me that people who go to therapy are almost a separate class or even a species. Because it costs crazy money. Because it won't work quickly and requires a lot of effort. It was some kind of ideal picture, like from a movie, where a self-confident person comes into a huge, light office, filled with books, and in a quiet, measured voice speaks on almost philosophical topics, pouring from empty to empty reasoning about the meaning of life and the great

And the therapist (always knowing the answers to questions) nods quietly and thoughtfully, asking ambiguous questions from time to time and inserting multimetaphoric remarks, voicing the name of the diagnosis at each new consultation and a quick-acting, like aspirin, solution.

In reality, a client who comes to psychotherapy is, for the most part, an ordinary person. He goes to the same shops, perhaps drinks the same coffee on the way or swears while driving.

For example, it may be a young mother of two children, who has been on parenting leave for five years and is already almost literally howling. And she would love to go to work, but she has no idea what she wants to do now and that is why she goes to therapy. In search of your own meaning, to meet your own desires.

Or a student who has completed five years of the Faculty of Psychology, but has not found an answer to the main question that has accompanied him since his colorful puberty: "What is wrong with me?" And so he goes after couples for a part-time job, because he cannot cope on his own, and it is important for him to understand the labyrinth of his own doubts.

This can be a talented artist who woke up one day in a huge city full of opportunities and prospects, and felt such an emptiness inside that cannot be brightened up with the brightest palette on the coolest canvas. And in order not to go crazy and fill this existential crater with truth, he sinks into a chair and begins to speak.

It can be anyone, because doubts creep in to everyone. And there is nothing shameful or terrible in this.

It is always convenient to blame others for not getting what you want. The country - because it did not develop intensively enough by your coming of age. Friends and husband - for not being as supportive at the right time as they wanted or needed. Parents - that they did not make childhood colorful and carefree, or they did not correctly suggest which profession to choose in order to become rich and happy. Parents generally get more of the other "culprits".

Don't say that you don't go to therapy just because it's pointless, expensive, and in general, over a glass of martini with olives, a friend has already advised. You do not go, because deep down in your heart you don’t want to change something in your life (or you’re afraid, which is also normal). Because whoever wants, looks for opportunities, finding them in the form of volunteer programs, support services and group work