2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
How to behave if my child is scolded ?, - the client asked me.
She is an absolutely adequate mother. She has no question of what to do if someone from outside decides to "educate" her child in transport or on the street. The problem arises when teachers turn on the "preaching mode" - I can't please you with anything today! Again he had a fight, hit the girl! - “hello” place, says the teacher to the mother who came for the child. - Vanya, how are you not ashamed to disgrace your family so much! - continues this stupid teacher, switching to the child, - after all, we draw conclusions about your parents by your behavior. The client talks about her feelings. She stands as if paralyzed, unable to utter a word. Resentment, anger at both her son and the teacher, humiliation - the only thing that she can experience at this moment.
Almost all parents face a similar problem. How do you react here? And just as if it was not a teacher, but a grandmother from the next doorway. Tough and polite. You need to protect the child. As soon as you feel that the conversation is taking a moralizing turn, put your arms around the child's shoulders. By this you demonstrate that you are on his side, no matter what they say about him here. After the teacher finished her monologue and answer any of her questions with a prepared phrase: - I heard you, Vanya and I will definitely discuss the current situation and I think we will find a way out. Goodbye!. And while hugging the child, leave school.
Yes, your child may be wrong 1000 times, he may not behave like a gentleman, hitting the girl, or pushing her into the boy's toilet. You may even be ashamed of his behavior. You will tell him all this, at home, one on one. But I beg you, never scold or teach your children in the presence of strangers, especially teachers. This is a betrayal.
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