2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Sometimes children try to ignore the truth of their parents and even fight them: for them, in this case, the parents are either too stupid / smart, or too fat / thin, or old / young, or beautiful / ugly … The child seems to be on strike. Sometimes in a very tough manner.
Usually, parents tend to see in children either themselves, or perceive them as their investment, their sculpture, which should not repeat their path, but which they constantly direct on this path. And this is usually a false approach.
First, realize that your children are not your property
Children are not the property of their parents. As well as parents are not the property of their children.
Children differ from their parents only in that they came later to this world. But this does not mean that now children must obey their parents in everything.
Everything could be different: children could have come into this world earlier.
The difference between children and adults consists in different focuses of attention due to different vocabulary, semantic, and situational dictionaries.
Let the child cook in all your thoughts, in all your goals and desires, and he will quickly become an "adult", regardless of the child's body and formal "age" …
Parents are the gateway or guide to this reality
The child's first and central drive is the desire to survive, then the desire to learn other desires comes … a different situation.
Children deny something from your personal world simply because it might not fit with their idea of survival.
It is necessary to very carefully monitor and filter the entire environment of the child, if you do not want spontaneous revolutions in your home.
The only thing that can be offered to your children is instructions for life, which will be at least a little effective, at least slightly polished by personal experience. Moreover, to give instructions not blindly (as a doctrine), but as one of the possible choices. Without imposing, but explaining the advantages and disadvantages of one or another choice of the course of events.
And most importantly - to teach children the ability to focus not only on the global growth and fall of the economy, market and currency, but also on inner world map … So that a child from childhood can feel himself without pain and depression.
Conclusion
It may sound trite, but you need to treat children with respect, showing humanity and helping them get used to this reality.
If the children managed to make friends with their parents, that's good. If not, that's fine too.
In fact, this is not so important.
All this concerns not only the "actual" children born and brought up by us, but also the "child" that is present in each of us - regardless of the volume, weight and significance of the body that has grown on it over the past time.
I recommend that you start living with understanding right now, digging out the reasons for what is happening to you and stimulating only the events you like, and not everything
Thanks for attention! See you! Author: Parshukov Artem Dmitrievich
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