What's In The House Is In The Soul

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

These are the moments when, in the middle of the week, everything falls out of hand and infuriates so much that a little more and the most favorite coffee will fly further.

It is important to understand the frequency of such manifestations, we are all living people and everyone has not very days. But when these not very days turn into life, you should pay attention to this. Most often, we break down over trifles, when we are overwhelmed with everything, namely: thoughts, feelings, events, anxieties, sorrows, memories, problems, loans, quarrels, conflicts and so on, I think you already understand.

This is how an intrapersonal conflict is formed. “The conflict arises primarily in those cases when the balance between the individual and the environment is disturbed. The basis of the violation is negative mental states of the personality: stress, overexertion, frustration (from the Latin frustratio - disorder), psychological discomfort. (K. Levin)

That is, if we neglect what is important to us, be it sleep, delicious food, communicating with loved ones or defending a project at work, then the worm of dissatisfaction starts its business.

For the first time I learned that there is an intrapersonal conflict during a psychology course, and as I remember now, it shocked me. From the fact that as a young student I did not even know about it. Then I vehemently tried to tell everyone how important it is and that everyone has this conflict. Having grown wiser and having studied the psychological defenses of the psyche, I realized that this was not the most reasonable action and began to deal with my conflicts myself. The idea of harmony, oriental influences and the philosophy of Yin-Yang unity attracted and excited. But how to achieve this idyll and harmony with oneself, then it was a mystery.

One of the key rules is to stop quarreling with yourself and understand what provokes internal tension. And for this I offer you the Kon Mari method of 29-year-old Japanese woman Mary Kondo for putting things in order in the house, after all, oriental ideas threw the key to the solution. It is paradoxical that in the book "Magic cleaning. The Japanese art of putting things in order at home and in life", simple ways to say goodbye to things and mechanisms of putting things in order are described. in the head and in the soul.

"My book is about more than the theoretical or mechanical aspects of cleaning: it's about the emotional and psychological effects cleaning has on us," Kondo said in an interview with The Japan Times.

You can dig yourself for years and dig a deep grave, but I suggest you throw the shovel away and look at your problems from a different angle. Perhaps, just through the relationship with your things, you will be able to measure yourself with yourself.

С ❤ psychologist Anna Jura