Waiting For The Client

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Waiting for the client.

How to find clients? This question, in one way or another, lives with the psychologist all his life, because it is part of the psychologist himself, regardless of his belonging to one or another direction of analysis or therapy. I see this question as a kind of existence of the psychologist himself in the form of the realization of his unconscious, i.e. as such the question "how to find clients?" in my understanding does not exist, there is only a certain psychological reality of the psychologist that sets the tone for his external manifestations.

Oddly enough, the use of advertising and any other "promotion" in this case is also the realization of their unconscious desires, which, in most cases, the psychologist himself knows little about. Is the human soul the subject of bargaining or marketing?

Is it possible to look for the free will of the individual, aimed at "surrendering into caring hands" and is not then this "search" something completely different, not what is officially declared. I think yes. Is it possible to target a group of "desired" clients and what then separates the psychologist from himself by drawing these trend lines in his soul? If we outline the target group of potential clients, the psychologist loses most of his vision of the psyche as a collective phenomenon, and loses the ability to see himself, which, apparently, for many psychologists, unconsciously, is the goal, otherwise they will be found by “others” and all the works on creating their own persons will go to dust. Of course, I am generalizing here, and all I want is to highlight the tendency in which the psychologist's own unconscious motives take on the form of a client search field, in which he plays out his personal dramas and experiences, and in reality, this has nothing to do with the desired client. …

All these phenomena, such as: advertising, banners, posters, advertising on social networks, corruption schemes in hospitals, etc., etc., of course, this is all cool, but this is not about psychology. Although, of course, there is a part of the “dead” in the living body of the psychologist, otherwise he will not be able to see this very dead thing in the client. Everything that I describe is part of the work of a psychologist, this is not good and not bad, it just is, and this is not about clients, this is about ourselves, about a psychologist who is looking for something incomprehensible inside himself and does not know about it. Well, he doesn’t know, he knows of course, he just doesn’t want to admit it is alive and real for himself. In any case, the client will come to "his" psychologist, from the first time or from the tenth, this is individual, it is important that the search for a psychologist is relevant only for himself, and the client, for example, responding to advertising, is still looking for something their own, and if these are two identical pathologies, then why not, because then both have a chance for healing. On the other hand, a psychologist can drown his pain at work, or vice versa, cut himself up with unemployment, checking whether you are still alive or not. Oddly enough, but both poles of the psychologist's state play their role, because, most likely, someone needs just such a burned out at work and useless (i.e. safe) psychologist who can just be around and prove to the client with his whole appearance that, in principle, everything is fine with him, at the other end of the corridor there is a hypersensitive bare nerve of a psychologist without clients, who reacts immediately, apparently, thereby attracting a special audience. And that's all right. Answering the question “how to find clients” means not recognizing yourself here and now passing the mirror.