How Not To Get What You Want In A Relationship

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

There are many ways to not get what you want in a relationship.

You can be very persistent over and over again to do what causes your partner to be allergic. Repeating the same actions, causing the same reaction, get angry at the reaction that it is not what is expected. Not notice how your partner swells, suffocates, and blisters. Make more effort. Trying to bend him and in his face the whole world to fit your needs, instead of thinking about how to reach a compromise.

You can constantly seek compromises, adapt, offer fresh solutions and endlessly be creative, not noticing that on the other side they are not moving a single centimeter. Avoid disappointment, sadness and collision with the impossibility of your own and someone else's. Run the longest marathon from restrictions, ignoring fatigue, until they - these very restrictions will not slam you somewhere around the next bendable corner.

You can be silent when they want from you and expect an answer. Do not talk about your desires, expectations and needs, so that they are not suspected of having them. Stop life, freeze, dissolve in fear or shame. Hanging there indefinitely, suffering from loneliness.

Any act of speaking can be turned into a sophisticated manipulation, so as to confuse the tracks as much as possible and not be caught. Not always fully understand - if caught, then in what, and for what you will have to bear the answer. Just knowing what kind of frankness or being oneself inevitably comes, which means that frantically lying is strategically necessary for survival. After a while, you genuinely wonder why no one believes or understands you.

You can ignore your own fear of approaching, moaning loudly about how you want warmth, and not notice that you shy away from every attempt of your partner to get closer. You attack, strike, intimidate like a wild untamed animal that senses a stranger, give signals to stay away.

You can constantly wedge yourself into someone else's dance by the third, each time being upset that somehow the dance is not harmonious. Try to turn the pairing genre into a small round dance. Not to notice that the round dance was possible due to the fatigue of the two, that both are very grateful for the opportunity and that as soon as they have enough rest, the pair genre will again become a priority.

You can turn your own pair genre every now and then into a round dance, spraying the subjectively unbearable tension between the two to the maximum possible number of participants. Resent why the round dance is always so uninitiated. Wait for the next recruits to turn out to be better people, and everything will finally play out as it should.

You can endlessly try the relationship and partner for strength, arranging executions, experiments, keeping a diary of observations and calculating the benefits. Do not leave the role of a young naturalist-start-up under any pretext, so that God forbid not to notice that relationships are valuable in themselves, and not only from the practical and rational side or cognitive natural science.

There are many ways to make your life much more difficult. And what, tea, it's not sugar. And we came to this world not at all to.