Success Diary

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

There was plenty of criticism, but praise is always in short supply.

Remember, we were scolded for a deuce, but it was possible not to get any feedback for a five, because it was believed that it should be so.

The child's psyche is very susceptible to outside evaluations.

A small person is not able to evaluate himself, therefore, everything that was told to him, he absorbed without

doubts, and thus the image of your own self was formed.

It turns out, what words we mainly heard in childhood, they formed the basi

our self-esteem.

As we age, we begin to think seriously about inner strength, resources and

opportunities and, unfortunately, we may find that we either give up what we have begun halfway through, or are afraid to make serious changes. We can also catch ourselves on indecision and lack of desire for more serious goals.

Interestingly, this often happens precisely because we lack

faith in our own strength and we do not appreciate ourselves.

I recently ran an online self-esteem and self-confidence marathon where, for 30 days, apart from other tasks, the participants kept a "Diary of successes".

The essence of this technique is as follows

Every day needs to be celebrated three thingsfor which you can praise yourself.

This list can include both the completion of a major project and the preparation of a new dish. The main thing is to celebrate these events, praise yourself and record it on paper. The procedure must be done within 30 days.

How does this technique work?

You can't praise yourself - no one will. People often treat us the way we treat ourselves.

Therefore, if you rate your qualities low, then get ready for the fact that this is the kind of feedback you will receive from the world.

You know the phrase:

“Dreams come true for optimists. Pessimists have nightmares."

George Bernard Shaw

So, if you think that nothing will work out for you, then, of course, you will find those people who will confirm this idea to you. And you, with the words “I knew it”, will set off on a further journey along the beaten track of pessimism and disappointment.

I suggest you another way

Success Diary suggests work with attention.

When a person receives praise, and it doesn't matter whether he is praised by other people or himself, the body releases hormones of pleasure and his well-being improves. This can be easily verified by looking at how you feel when you do this technique.

You will enjoy it.

Keeping a journal methodically will help you develop the habit of noticing the good, which means your focus will shift to the positive.

In our world, billions of events occur per unit of time. We are so arranged that at one moment we are able to focus on only one of them, and the great thing is that we have the opportunity to choose what exactly. Why don't we choose to focus on the positive?

You will develop a habit of seeing the positive.

Many noted that they began to feel better. This is also easy to explain if you know that physiology is closely related to psychology. This means that by changing our view of the world, we automatically change our sense of self.

Will explain.

Julia is used to discussing negative political news with neighbors and relatives. Also, she was constantly dissatisfied with her work.

Talking about it caused headaches and was stressful.

For the rest, Julia was a fairly happy person, went in for sports, spent time with her family and children.

But negative thoughts haunted her.

After she started keeping the "Success Diary", she began to notice positive changes in her health and mood. How did this happen?

This happened because, Julia shifted the focus of attention to the pleasant parts of her life. Of course, she did not change the political system and did not change jobs (yet), but she definitely began to devote less time to this discontent.

Suddenly Julia noticed how many interesting things were happening around and life began to play with new colors.

You will feel better.

Keeping a success diary doesn’t provide you with a breakthrough, but it does build your confidence as you will clearly notice how much you do and that you are truly a praiseworthy person.

And here is the most important secret:

If you feel like a successful person, you can believe in yourself and move towards your goal or make a long-awaited breakthrough.

YOU WILL FEEL IN YOURSELF AND BELIEVE IN YOURSELF

What obstacles can be in the process of keeping a Success Diary?

1. You cannot find something to praise yourself for.

In this case, praise anything that you think is at least somewhat good.

If you are prone to perfectionism, then it will be difficult for you to praise yourself for the prepared cake. But our task is to bring praise at all costs. Therefore, the first days you need to choose any event for which you could at least pat yourself on the back. Fix this state and feel into your experiences.

2. You start diary and quit.

The technique is quite simple, so I think it won't be difficult to allocate 5 minutes every day to record three events. You will begin to notice internal changes only in the middle of this process. Therefore, an important task is to get to the middle and mark the changes. I think you will want to continue on.

3. You are in a bad mood and on this day you cannot write anything.

In this case, read what you praised yourself for earlier, notice your inner experiences, and the first item to praise yourself for the effort is the decision to continue.;-)

I am sure that if you honestly keep a Success Diary for a month, you will become more confident, feel better and learn to notice the good. And having changed the image of your own I, you will find that you have become a more decisive person who is worthy to go towards your goal and you will have enough strength for the long-awaited changes.