2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Modern parents, who want to do everything and take part in everything, are very impatient with their young children. “Hurry up”, “Come on quickly”, “Why are you fumbling there,” - parents often shout at their children. Of course, little by little, the child needs to be introduced into the real world, in which time is so valued, taught to discipline and order. But these steps should be small, as small as the legs of a child. It is cruel when a hurrying mother accelerates speed, which the child, with all the desire, cannot develop.
Unlike the father and mother, the child has a lot of time: for play, carelessness and pleasure. This is a privilege of childhood, which will become less and less with each new day of a child's life. The child is not yet part of the adult world of goals and aspirations, and this infuriates many parents. Requirements from parents: "Hurry up" or "Do something" negatively affect the child, suppressing in him most of the pleasure that he could receive from his movements and activities. The child's freedom of expression is repressed by parents when they do not trust the child's body for self-regulation, and in general, his natural impulses.
Let me give you an example. In a large shopping center, the boy lags behind his mother by about one and a half meters, the mother, immersed in a smartphone, does not notice this. The child enchantedly examines the bright windows, moves slowly and naturally. The mother, who finally felt the absence of her son by her side, turning to him, asks: “Are you normal? Hurry up! . The child freezes for a moment, and then tries to catch up with the mother, who has accelerated her pace even more.
From that moment on, the grace of body and soul is lost. In addition, cognitive activity becomes a source of mother's mistreatment. Looking around is a great luxury and danger. This is how uninitiated, obedient, unimaginative people are formed. People who know only one thing: you have to go quickly, stooped, looking at your feet and with your mouth closed. The Broken Spirit is not just a metaphor, it reflects the psychological reality that manifests itself in the physical body.
Let me give you another example. The mother angrily, with mocking notes shouts to her son about 4 years old: “Do you want to ?! You want a lot. " This envy of the mother to the independent actions of the child, who allowed himself to want or do something, provokes an explosion of rage. The content of the anger and mocking tone is understandable: "Why should you be free in spirit if my own spirit is broken?"
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