2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
We are often in a hurry to live.
We are missing a moment in the present.
Or we want to extend it. And it is possible to avoid something.
It doesn't matter what reasons cause this haste in us, the main thing here is what we are depriving ourselves of. And we are depriving many things, and perhaps the most valuable.
In my opinion, rushing to live means not having time to get one thing, as we immediately begin to think about something else. The time for another has not yet come, and it is not a fact that it will be. And it is even less likely that it will be as we think it is. And we are already getting ahead of ourselves … Ie. in the present we are not talking about the present, but about the future, which is also quite fantasy and illusory.
I will give examples of such a rush.
A guy and a girl just met - they are already asked about the wedding. The couple got married - they are asked questions about the child. Have your first child, what is the question? - yes))) "when is the second child?"
Or
The young man entered the university, they are already asking him when he will bring money from work. Got a job, and they ask him about career advancement.
Or
The child began to study at a sports school, and he is already being asked about medals, awards, and achievements.
I think everyone will remember many similar examples from their lives. Sometimes, these episodes from life are so small and subtle that we do not even notice them. Also, questions can be asked by the jester. However, as the saying goes, "every joke has a share of a joke."
When we get ahead of ourselves, we lose the ability to appreciate what is happening to us now. The depth of the moment disappears. As a result, we live neither in the present moment nor in the future. Against this background, internal dissatisfaction arises.
People who are always worried about the future and ask you such questions, in fact, themselves cannot fully experience the present moment. It is not enough for them to have what they have now, so it is not enough for them what you tell. They want more and for all this to happen right at the time of the conversation.
Moreover, these people often can, as they say, “cheat”. And then we ourselves stop enjoying what is happening, and we begin to demand more from ourselves and others.
The more often, longer and more we "run ahead", the more we are dissatisfied, and from this we are not able to fully live in the present moment.
Dissatisfaction is good too. It helps us to develop, set new goals, and strive for something. However, it is not always appropriate. In most cases, it is important to learn to appreciate what is in your life today.
Even if you are sad or you are having a bad period in your life. The ability and ability to live such moments leads to the fact that they end faster and do not "catch up" with you in the future. We cannot escape from ourselves and from those states that are within us. Only a high-quality and healthy experience of every unpleasant situation, emotion, sensation will give us a new resource and turn.
Appreciate what is happening to you right now. Be happy for what is happening with your family and friends. Do not rush to live and do not rush others. Let life be and everything happen on time.
And remember, not rushing to live is the art of being.
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