Top 5 Leadership Mistakes

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Today, almost every second parent dreams that his child would grow up as a leader. Moreover, he does not just dream, but tries to make his dreams come true in all possible ways (and all at once). One gets the feeling that raising an "ordinary" child is downright a crime. Let's figure out who a leader is and what typical mistakes parents make in pursuit of a newfangled upbringing.

Leader (from the English leader - the one who leads, the first one going in front).

According to Yakipede's definition, leader - a person in any group, organization, team, unit that enjoys great, recognized authority, has influence, which manifests itself as managerial actions. That is, being a leader does not at all mean being a boss or a leader, as many parents think. The boss, unlike the leader, has formal authority over his subordinates. The leader may not have such power. They don't have to listen to him, they want to listen to him. To be a leader means to be the first in something, to be what others want to follow, to inspire others to act, to “infect” people with your ideas, not to be afraid to take responsibility for your actions and those who believed in you. All these and many other qualities of leaders are often combined into one, calling it all charisma. Accordingly, people with such a set of characteristics are called charismatic, implying attraction. And although in the literal sense "charisma" is translated as "gift of God", whether your child will be a leader or not, in many respects depends not on God, but on the parents and the conditions they create for their babies.

So, what are the most common mistakes you can make when educating a leader?

*" Can not - teach, do not want - make"

One of the most common mistakes parents make when trying their best to educate a leader is ignoring the personality traits of a particular child. Parents, as if intoxicated, insist that they want to educate a leader, and the unfortunate melancholic Andryusha is now "pulling out".

It is no secret that a person is born with an already established type of nervous system (type of temperament). And if you are lucky enough to be the parent of a calm and thoughtful child, who is more interested in playing alone and in peace, you do not need to break the child in order to meet fashionable standards. This does not mean that there is no need to strive at all to develop in a child the qualities that a leader often has. But this must be done carefully, taking into account the characteristics of a particular child.

* Lack of strategic thinking in the upbringing process

The second mistake is the lack of strategic thinking in the upbringing processes. Ask yourself a question: if you decided to build a house, would you entrust the construction of your house to an architect who does not have an exact plan and cannot say what result you will get in the end? Hardly. Surely they would have thought over all the details (the layout of the rooms, the arrangement of furniture, the colors of the interior, etc.). Why are we so frivolous, at random, treat the upbringing of the most precious thing we have? Unfortunately, a rare parent deliberately thinks what result of upbringing he wants to see at the end and what is needed for this. After all, if you know that you want to cook borscht, you will definitely not put pineapple in it (although pineapple itself is very good). The same applies to the development of leadership qualities in a child. First you need to figure out who the Leader is and what qualities should be developed or undeveloped in a child so that he can lead the rest. The described situation often provokes the appearance of the following problem.

*"… Obey mom and dad"

Paradoxically, many parents naively believe that raising a child obedient (that is, convenient for them) can be expected to show leadership qualities in the future. But, unfortunately, such a child from childhood gets used to doing what he is told and becomes convenient for someone else (teacher, boss, wife, husband, mother-in-law or mother-in-law). This is due to the fact that obedient children do not have the opportunity to learn how to defend their position in a safe parental space, prove their case, realize their ideas, develop a creative approach and creativity in solving various problems. That is, the child grows up as a follower, and this is the complete opposite of the Leader.

* No boundaries and no punishments

The other extreme that is encountered in the upbringing of a Leader is the absence of boundaries and punishments. I will clarify right away that by punishment I in no way mean physical punishment.

Oddly enough, but in my practice, I increasingly have to deal with the problem of the parents' inability and / or unwillingness to set boundaries in relation to the child and apply punishment when these boundaries are violated. For the reason indicated above (lack of strategic thinking in matters of education), many parents confuse permissiveness and independence, when the child is allowed everything that he would not want. Rejoicing in the child's banal disobedience ("lieider", - mom and dad are smiling approvingly), parents shift onto children's shoulders the solution of issues that, due to age, fragile nervous system and lack of knowledge and life experience, the child is not able to solve. It is worth remembering that a parent is, first of all, a reference point for a child. His task is to help the child show the way and set the limits of what is permissible, teach not only to protect their own borders, but also to respect the borders of other people. Otherwise, there is a great risk of raising an individual who walks over his head and realizes his whims at any cost.

*“ To study, to study and study again!”

Many parents mistakenly believe that in order to achieve success and develop leadership qualities, a child must study well (not knowing much, namely studying well). And instead of chatting with friends, making new acquaintances and hone their social skills, the child is forced to gnaw the granite of science and communicate with the textbook. Of course, a child's versatility and broad outlook is important for the ability to inspire and lead others. But navryatli ignorance, for example, of integrals will prevent this. And it often happens that an average student who has time to take a walk, go to a disco, doing what he loves (hobbies, sections), succeeds much more than a child who is covered with a thick layer of book dust, but pleases parents and teachers with high marks. And this is because he not only has fun, but also hones the communication skills that are necessary for the successful implementation of leadership qualities in the future.