2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
We often don't have enough space. Good, harmonious, comfortable. Each has its own comfort indicator.
- Someone wants approval, recognition, support.
- Someone people who will always motivate, charge.
- Someone a psychologist who will give a magic word, and everything in life will change.
- For some, the presence of the opposite sex in life, or children, or friends, and it happens that one of the parents.
- And there is a lack of time to create space. Or resources.
Our space can be both external and internal. It happens that external circumstances are unfavorable, the problem is on the problem. At the same time, it is somehow so very good inside. And it happens the other way around. Often I meet, by the nature of the activity, that under favorable external conditions, the inner space is filled with despondency, irritation, sadness.
One way or another, in our life we come across either a comfortable space or an uncomfortable one. Sometimes we freeze a little in discomfort, as we feel it more vividly. Also, such a hangup is associated with the desire to run away and change the environment. I want to switch as quickly as possible and get what I want. And it turns out that we are running away, but the situation is not running away at all.
Not news. Most likely, I will remind myself and my reader again. Our space depends only on us. We should learn to create an atmosphere of comfort for ourselves. It is very important to learn to be in any uncomfortable emotion, being aware of it, allowing it to be within you as much as it needs. At the same time, you can do something pleasant for yourself.
In creating space, we begin to take our own adult position. We are responsible for ourselves and our reaction to everything that happens. Learn to compensate for the lack of something comfortable for yourself. Understand why something is happening. Examine yourself and what provokes discomfort in space. Learn to change according to the cause of the disharmony and start feeling yourself.
When we feel ourselves, we know exactly what is happening to us. We cultivate an inner observer who helps us give ourselves a good, harmonious, comfortable space.
What can help?
- Create an objective opinion about yourself. Understand your strengths and weaknesses. Explore your own talents and abilities. Assess your strengths and potential. Realize what you can do to yourself, and what the help of others is needed.
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Give yourself support, approval, recognition. Find ways through which you can experience it. It is important to understand how you yourself, independently show support, recognition, and approval for yourself. Is there a place in your inner emotional world for this? If so, what is more, self-criticism or support? What comes on first when something happens to you? If self-criticism, then it is better to learn to give approval first, and then critically look at the situation.
- Understand that only you yourself are able to motivate and charge yourself. Find what it can be in your experience or in the lives of others and get inspired.
- The opinion of the people is important, but of course it is not an instance. After all, no one is perfect. Therefore, the opinion may be based on the personal experience of the person who voiced it, and not on what kind of person you are.
I wish each of you to learn how to create space and feel harmony when something is missing.
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