2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
An ideal family before the first check …
Natasha married for love. She just performed in her beloved family, where two children were growing up, the role of free servants: household, children, husband-prince, work - everything lay on her fragile shoulders. Bring it in, bring it in, take it away, wash it …
To plow to exhaustion, to crush all interests and desires in oneself has already become the norm. Her self-esteem had fallen so badly that she was ashamed of herself and her body.
Relatives stopped noticing her, respecting her and generally seeing her as a person.
And suddenly everything turned upside down - Natasha, practically, went blind. She twisted the building mix at work, and, trying to grab the can, bent down and the caustic liquid plopped into her eyes.
My own helplessness, endless medical procedures, the shock of the children, and the quick departure of the husband from the family did not fit into my head.
Her whole past life suddenly collapsed.
Thanks to my mother, who was there and patiently supported her daughter on the way to recovery.
Natasha often lay motionless, staring unseeingly at the ceiling. And one day she heard a phrase on the radio that pierced her through and through: What you want, God wants.
That is … if I want a blouse - God wants me to buy it for myself ?! But it’s selfish to be led by your desires!
The woman thought about herself for the first time.
Another question that surprised her was - Who will be with you constantly by your side, until your death?
Mom - may die earlier. Children will grow up and scatter. Men can change. Is there such a person at all? Or … is it me myself ?! It turns out that for many years she kept her dearest person in tight-knit gloves?
From now on and forever, there has been a complete rethinking of oneself.
For the next 2 years, Natasha restored her eyesight and, with the help of psychotherapy, got rid of the heavy feelings that had washed over her.
Simultaneously with the vision, the understanding of oneself also improved. Natasha changed:
❏ I discovered my strengths and abilities, which allowed me to lean on myself and feel confident in my own abilities
❏ Realized my own worth and the value of my desires
❏ Learned to defend my interests while maintaining relationships with people
❏ Become a happy and harmonious Person. Increasingly, the children heard her joyful laughter and cheerfully fooled around with the revived mother.
Many admired her tenacity and endurance, respected and appreciated her.
I can say that Natasha went through a difficult Path from tension, inability to defend herself and say "no", suppressed aggression, complexes and destructive relationships. And she restored her Identity, became liberated, whole and free.
This story clearly shows that if you have a passionate desire to change yourself and the situation in your life - this is possible.
I am Angelina Zezik, psychologist, gestalt therapist and supervisor.
For more than 10 years I have been working on the topic of Toxic Self-Shame, suppression of oneself and one's needs, Sacrifice, low self-esteem, exhaustion and burnout, fears and anxieties, psychosomatic diseases.
And the story with Natasha inspired me to create the Program: “ How to Bring together your Personality and sparkle with new facets ».
The program will help restore a suppressed Identity not in a couple of years, but in a few months.
❏ If you are tired of disbelief in yourself, disharmony in your soul, conflicting desires;
❏ want to get rid of complexes, fears and anxieties;
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