Mikhail Labkovsky: Why Men Love Bitches

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

If the first two and main women of his life were corporals in skirts, he would never like a shy doe …

Many men adore bitches, they cannot breathe directly on them and do not take their eyes off, while the right girls with a fine mental organization are very surprised - what's the matter? “I cherish and cherish him, I buy shirts, I don’t get hysterical and don’t bother with obsessive questions“Where are you? When will you be? ", And he again returned to his bitch-wife, who all the time yelling and hitting him with a wet towel on his face."

And everything is natural.

The fact is that before he met his first bitch and fell in love with her with all his soul, the boy was first born to his mother. And my mother did not stand on ceremony with him: if he did something wrong, she did not sob over the sink and did not reflect, but gave him a slap on the head and deprived of sweets or did not let him go for a walk.

Instead of "good morning" he heard: are you a fool? And instead of approval - the favorite prophecy of harsh mothers - "Do your best, otherwise you will be a janitor."

Probably, when he was a teenager, he was told something like "you stink like a goat" and "I'll put these socks in your plate now" … Particularly exalted mothers took up the belt.

Growing up, such boys do not really understand when the opposite sex lisps with them, indulges their ugliness, swallows resentment and even sobs in the back seat.

But, having caught the steel in the woman's voice, the commanding tone and words like "I'm starting to lose patience" - they immediately make a stance and only dream of being thrown on a leash. The so-called bitches do not even have to do anything special, the men themselves drag them to the registry office, fill them up with gifts and behave in a courteous manner - more attentively than with their mother.

But usually, one mother is not enough to form a lover of bitches. The effect is strengthened and consolidated by “my first teacher”, who affectionately says: “in order to write a test like this, the child must have no brain at all”, “I have been working at school for 50 years, but this is the first time I see such a fool,” or maybe even beats boy with a pointer on the fingers or a ruler on the back. Now they try to prevent such things (mainly, in schools of the Central Administrative District of Moscow, in general in the country rudeness on the part of a teacher is by no means uncommon. And some parents even encourage it). Well, then the baby went home, where his beloved mother was waiting for him with the words: "I did not think that my son would be such mediocrity."

Do you understand yes, the mechanism? Mom is the first woman he saw in his life and whom he immediately fell in love with forever. And the teacher is the second influential woman, and her authority at some point is even stronger than that of the mother. If the first two and main women of his life were corporals in skirts, he would never like a shy doe.

Now he is 20, 30, 40, and maybe even 50 years old and guess what kind of girls this guy likes? They do not like them speculatively, but at the level of instincts, subconsciousness, good old libido. Of course, he is irresistibly attracted to selfish women who care little about his desires, well-being and plans. (But sex and children are given to him only as a reward for good behavior). Under their command, he feels as usual, at home …

And how will he build relationships with the bitches? He will try to please them, catch their eyes, guess desires and be afraid to screw up - in short, try his best to be a good son for his new mom. And she, of course, was dissatisfied with something all the way. (And if he is happy, then not for long. And if for a long time, then he will cease to excite him).

He seems to be very much to blame for something all the time: he earns little, is little at home, forgot something, was late somewhere, did not pay due attention to the problem, or her mother, or her request, and off you go: do not love! What am I to you, some kind of cheap? And that's all he needs. He rushes to make amends for nonexistent guilt, earns forgiveness and immediately receives the next reprimand. And so in a circle, or rather, as on a swing. It is breathtaking and not boring.

If a woman knows how to evoke these happy-unhappy experiences in her husband, reminiscent of childhood stories, she may not worry about the future of the family.

The psyche works simply: a person wants to experience his childhood emotions, finds a woman who reminds him of his mother and builds similar relationships. His mother was always unhappy with him, he was afraid of her and for many years adhered to tactics: just not to aggravate. With my wife too. At the same time, the fear of losing his second childhood makes him jealous of his wife for every pillar and often, in this model of relations, it is not unreasonable.

There are more such men than is commonly thought than can be seen with the naked eye, but I see them almost every day in my consultation.

Now about women in such pairs. They love to complain about their bitter fate, to tell with what infantile they have to while away their days. “I am toiling,” “I married a child,” “I dreamed that there would be a strong shoulder next to me, but here …”, “I have two children: my husband is the eldest”.

As a rule, these are girls from families where the mother strongly dominated, and the father was a kind of wordless appendage of the family. She understands and is familiar with such a family model.

I declare absolutely definitely: if a boy grew up in an atmosphere of love and respect, was surrounded by care and support, he will never covet a bitch. A pathological craving for all sorts of bitches is a sign of serious trouble in relations with the mother. However, the emotional need to be in just such a relationship with a partner speaks of the problems of both parties.

What should men do

First, realize that the situation in the relationship with your woman is very unhealthy, and she is unhealthy for reasons far from romance and fatal passions. You do not bazaar out of great love. The reason is that you, as an addict, feel the need for conflict. Such - stormy, passionate, powerful conflicts, against the background of which relations are calm, healthy, "adults" seem insipid to you. You need to feel sorry for yourself, offend and take offense, so that in the end you begin to lament: “Am I doing little?”, “Am I not deserving respect?” and "why do I need all this?" These are all neurotic symptoms with bad consequences. And such symptoms do not go away by themselves.

If you don’t make a decision and don’t change, you will always be in a state of conflict, not to part with feelings of guilt and self-pity, in the status of either the executioner or the victim. It is unhealthy, wrong and fraught when absolutely everyone in the family is unhappy for years.

And by the way, do not forget: the person who makes you suffer is always stronger than you. Do you want to be weak?

I advise - if a woman raises her voice at you, insults, manipulates, slams doors (and I guarantee that she does not behave this way, this is the norm for her, and she smelled a suitable victim in you) - tell her right away that if this happens again, your relationship will end there.

Mentally healthy men stop all this at the very first hysteria, but better late than never, and you can break the paradigm at any stage and duration of the relationship.

Realizing that you are attracted to a certain type of women over and over again, and understanding why this is happening, you find yourself halfway to recovery and halfway to a woman who will take care of you. When faced with manifestations of bitchiness - do not bow your head, resist the imposed feeling of guilt, do not immerse yourself in the situation, do not let it repeat itself.

Of course, not immediately, after the stage of readjustment, breakdowns of varying severity, but your unnatural craving for bitches will definitely pass. And you will begin to react to them as a normal person, not as an adherent of BDSM. A normal person does not continue a relationship in which he is not respected. However, he will not even start them.