2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Each of us has our own bodily posture, it is unique. It is by her that you can recognize a person from afar. From it you can read a lot about what we have experienced in life. But there comes a moment when we want to straighten up, move on. And then we understand that the possibilities of our body are limitless and it is capable, having changed, to reveal to us the lost and forgotten parts of ourselves. By psychotherapist Vincenzo Rossi.
Vincenzo Rossi, psychotherapist, director of the Rio Abierto Center for Body Movement Therapy in Italy, author of Life in Motion. The Rio Abierto System”(Eterna, 2009)
Our personality is very accurately displayed in our body, determining its way of moving, expressing itself, its posture. The pose becomes like an armor that perfectly protects in everyday life. The bodily posture cannot be wrong, even if the body appears twisted, hunched over, or strange.
It is always the result of a creative response to the often unfavorable circumstances that we have had to face in life. For example, in the past I have failed in love and therefore am convinced that if I open my heart again, it will bring me new disappointments and pain. Therefore, it is completely natural and logical that I will close, my chest will become sunken, my solar plexus will be blocked, and my legs will become stiff and tense. At that moment in my past, it was wise to take a defensive posture to confront life. In an open and trusting position, I could not bear the pain I experienced when I was rejected.
While feeling atrophy is not a good quality, it helps me defend myself and take care of myself. Only then it is no longer "I" in the fullness of my manifestations, but some character imprinted in my body.
When the body no longer protects
The body expresses what we are at the moment, our aspirations, our past - what we think about ourselves and about life. Consequently, every change in our destiny and every change in our feelings and thoughts will invariably be accompanied by changes in the body. Often, changes, even profound ones, are not noticeable at first glance.
At some point in my life, I may suddenly realize that my posture no longer meets my needs in life, that my life has changed and could have changed even more and become better. I suddenly find that I can have a happy sex life instead of clinging to the idea of this life as sexual abuse or impotence. Or maybe I want to fully open up for love. This means that the moment has come to remove the old blocks, to tune my body like an instrument: pull one string, loosen the other. I am determined to change, not just imagine that I am changing, or worse, believe that I have already changed. One of the goals of working with the body through movement is to change.
Allowing yourself to live 30%
The amount of our dissatisfaction with life is exactly equal to the amount of unused potential - that is, the strength with which we do not live, the love that we do not express, mind that we do not manifest
But why is it so difficult for us to move, why have we lost the spontaneous ease of change? Why do we strive to fix ourselves in behavior and our habits?
It seems that one part of the body rushes forward, to attack, while the other retreats, hiding from life
Schematically, it can be depicted as follows: if I am afraid of love, my body will have only 30% of the movements that manifest themselves as a readiness for love and the joy of life. I miss 70%, and this affects the range of motion. The body expresses mental isolation by shortening the pectoral muscles that compress the chest and seek to protect the region of the heart. The rib cage, to compensate, "falls" into the abdominal cavity and squeezes the vital organs, and this makes a person feel constant weariness from life, and his facial expression becomes tired or fearful.
This means that body movements that go beyond these 30% will cause corresponding changes at the mental level. They will help to unclench the chest, make hand gestures smooth, and relieve imperceptible but well-read tension in the muscles around the pelvis.
What can be read in our body?
Perhaps we suspected or once heard or read that the body is a place in which every emotion, every thought, all our past experience - in general, our whole life, remains imprinted. This time, leaving traces behind, thus becomes material.
Our body - with its stooped back, sunken chest, legs turned inward, or protruding chest and defiant gaze -tells something about himself or, better to say, about who lives in it. It talks about despondency, disappointment, or the fact that you have to appear strong and show that you can do anything.
The body tells us about the soul, about the essence. This view of the body is what we call body reading.
The legs show us how a person leans on the ground andwhether he is in contact with her: perhaps he does so with fear, with confidence, or disgust. If I am not fully leaning on my legs, on my feet, what should I lean on then? Maybe for a friend, job, money?
Breathing will tell about the relationship with the outside world, and even more - about the relationship with the inner world.
The knee turned inward, the retroflex of the hips, the raised eyebrow are all signals, autobiographical notes that characterize us and tell our story
I remember a woman in her forties. Her gaze and the gestures of her hands were pleading, while at the same time she lifted her upper lip in a scornful grimace.and strained the chest. Two bodily signals - "Look how I need you" and "I despise you, don't come near me" - were in complete contradiction with each other, and as a result, her relationship was the same.
Change will come unnoticed
Personality contradictions can be seen in the body. It seems that one part of the body is striving forward, to attack, while the other retreats, hides, is afraid of life. Or one part tends upward, while the other remains pressed downward: an excited look and a sluggish body, or a sad face and a very lively body. And in another person, only reactive force is manifested: "I will show them all who I am!"
If you release tension in the pelvic area and strengthen the muscles of the legs, physical sensations will arise that will be perceived on the mental level as self-confidence
It is often said that psychological changes lead to bodily changes. But even more often it is just the opposite. When we work with the body without special expectations, but simply enjoying the release of body blocks, tensions and gaining flexibility, we suddenly discover new inner territories in ourselves.
If you release tension in the pelvic area and strengthen the muscles of the legs, new physical sensations will arise, which will be perceived on the mental level as self-confidence, a desire to enjoy life, to be more liberated. The same thing happens when we expand the rib cage.
Gotta give yourself time
The possibilities of our body are endless, it is possible to extract from it, like from a magician's hat, the lost and forgotten parts of ourselves. The body has its limitations, and therefore it takes a lot of work, sometimes daily, to achieve more muscle tone, to make the muscles more elastic. You need to give yourself time, patiently repeat, try again and again, celebrate amazing changes, sometimes unexpected.
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