Sudden And Permanent - Death

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

I sat down to write these thoughts several times. It is not simple. It's always difficult to talk about death

Few people are ready, in principle, to talk about her seriously and without jokes. She's scary. At the very least, it makes you think. Basically, we do not know how to say goodbye. Few parents talked to in childhood about life, where it was already possible to talk about death. In childhood, we all try to cope with this anxiety, feeling of helplessness and fear of nothingness, absence of life. Therefore, children play doctors, healing serious wounds to each other and to their parents. Therefore, playing war games, they pretend to kill each other in order to truly resurrect.

As we grow up, displacing painful thoughts of death, we deal with loss in different ways. Someone closes, leaving to work with their heads, someone hides behind philosophical phrases, someone is easier to pass by and not notice, not feel.

It's easier and safer to close your eyes, think about something else, convince yourself that there is nothing you can do. Because as soon as you come a little closer, extend a helping hand, you understand fully and without options: here it is, death, very close, you can almost feel its breath. And to hide from her is the most logical desire. Because it is unbearable to pass it through yourself constantly.

And so you learned to ignore the daily deaths in the war, because they are far from road accidents, because you always follow the rules, or old age, because this is the inevitable hand of time. You are not moved by the plaintive cry of cats and dogs, because the fittest survives and these are the rules of natural selection. And then suddenly, like a gust of cold wind, like freezing rain in the heat, the news bursts into your consciousness about the cruelty of the murder of a little girl in your city. And you can no longer put the stone shields back, because a girl of the same age is sleeping in the next room, who loves to go to the next store without you and for whom you are ready to turn the river back. You understand how fragile life is. Not only loved ones, but also your own. And you also understand that death is much closer and more permanent than you would like to think. Perhaps there is nothing more permanent and stable than death.

Death is inevitable and, what is much more frightening, most often it is completely sudden. It is extremely difficult to prepare for it, much less for an exam at an institute. Because on the exam you only need to understand the subject that you will take, even if it is the most corrupt teacher in town. Although in this case you can buy an assessment or get him fired. Such a trick will not work with death. And no matter how you “learn” the material and prepare for goodbye, after the death of a loved one, the most difficult thing remains - to learn to live with it. In the case of death, bribery is impossible. It remains only to go through all the stages from denial to acceptance.

Death is what you face all the time. On the street, when you see a chick falling out of the nest or in a tape, when you come across another cry for help for kittens, a young girl fighting an illness, a grandmother who was knocked down at a pedestrian crossing by another two-handed driver.

You can talk as much as you like about the fact that this is life, everyone is mortal, this is inevitable and you will be right. You can even angrily resent how people of a high intellectual level can want, no, crave cruel retribution to those who are involved in the death of their loved ones. You can appeal to humanity and whatever. And in this there will always be some grain of sound logic, but to a greater extent this position will remain what it is - protection from one's own powerlessness before death.

Perhaps one of the best and most effective ways to cope with the fear of death, at least temporarily, is to destroy the world around you. When there is no one to lose, death becomes just a euphemism. For a while.

So that's it. You can defend yourself as much as you like from thoughts of death by philosophy, reincarnation, fate, fate, but deep down, everyone who loves and wants to live is afraid of death. Simply because there can be no fear of death without this thirst for life.

Hug loved ones. Stop for a moment, think about yourself. And don't avoid such unpleasant thoughts of death. This will fill life with brighter colors and meanings. As the saying goes, si vis pacem, para bellum

And take care of yourself.