2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Talk to your children about your weaknesses. How do they need THIS, and not "I got up at your age at five, milked the cows, Dumas in the original honored the homeless",
The other day we are walking with my daughter after the meeting, I wanted to and admitted:
- you know, all my 43 years it seemed to me that, like in that movie What Men Talk About, the Nazis will come and ask "Do you want to die?" - and I will answer yes. If without pain and quickly, then all my life I knew that yes. Although such thoughts came to me precisely in moments of happiness, when everything around was cool.
Now, as a practicing coach, I understand that this is the norm, this is the fear of loss and intimacy: I will leave quickly so that they will not take it away from me before I get used to it.
And just yesterday, some kind of shit woke up at 3 in the morning, I look at you next to you, you are sniffing, there is a cool breeze from the window, and I suddenly suddenly understand: "Nooo! I'm so curious about what will happen next. No, I I want to see more. " For the first time with me.
At first, the daughter walked in silence, and then suddenly gave out:
"Mom, I'm so glad you said that. Of course I know that sometimes you feel sad. But you are still somehow constantly on the wave for me. And I fall off of it, I look at you from below and I don't understand." it’s not like that with me.”After all, it cannot be that a person does not have a dip in zero. And now I see that everything is normal with me.
We then walked another 8 kilometers, talked. But then there was Jung, Bekhterev and everything that can still surface in a conversation between a psychologist and a future psychiatrist:)) However, what a big mistake parents make is to present themselves as ideal. I don't want to be like that, but ask myself if I'm not a foundling. And this is the worst thing for a teenager. Weakness to you)
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