2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
How often parents traumatized by their own childhood treat their children differently: one gets all the parental tenderness, all the hopes, all the warmth, while the other gets stuck in the depths of the father's and mother's souls - aggression, impatience, anger … This is how human scenarios are laid, multiplying further happiness or unhappiness of children brought up in specific families … In spite of the exclusivity of external and internal data.
I will cite a well-known example widely covered by the biographers of this man.
It will be about the famous actress who played the divine beauty Angelica in the film by the French director Bernard Borderies - Michel Mercier.
Jocelyn Yvonne Rene (real name Michelle Mercier) was born into a family of major pharmacists from Nice before the outbreak of World War II, in 1939. Her parents dreamed of a son, the successor of the surname, business, and the birth of their daughter was very restrained. A little later, another girl appeared in the family - Zhoslin's sister - Michelle, whom her parents especially singled out, giving her all their attention and care. Jocelyn was not honored by her father and mother, she was considered mediocre and frivolous, not giving her due. Jocelyn's mother especially hated her (unfortunately, it happens), openly showing her rejection to her daughter. In this cold, prickly aura, the future star grew up.
How do you think, how did this children's script affect the fate of the wonderful beauty? Let me tell you based on the facts. Jocelyn's personal story, despite her perfect appearance, tremendous acting success and worldwide fame, was deeply unhappy. A bright and pure girl with all her heart strove for true love, dreaming of a strong and good family and children. But all the men of this pearl betrayed her in one way or another: they cheated, robbed, beaten, and so on. Only once did Jocelyn smile with real happiness, but even then not for long: her lover, having signed with her, soon died, and her husband's relatives drove her out of the house. Above her, it was as if the rock of the deepest misfortune in love hung. She never gave birth to children. Now 80-year-old Joseline lives alone, very modestly, in complete seclusion.
And how amazingly beautiful Michelle was. Let's touch her image again? Here is a shot from the famous film - "Angelica, the Marquis of the Angels" …
Do you want to know why such a successful beauty did not arrange female happiness? Let's go back to the childhood of the actress … As you remember, the girl grew up in an atmosphere of rejection, cold. This unfortunate formula became her destiny. Human scripts are mostly triggered by childhood. Algorithms of fate are conditioned by the parental attitude. A rejected soul, wounded in childhood, habitually chooses the "familiar", that which understandably considers precious, dear. Of course, hoping for the best. But the deformed primary scheme, embodied in adulthood, gives regular failures. This mechanism has a name - the phenomenon of retraumatization or repeated trauma, when a person unconsciously, again and again recreates a traumatic event of the past, not being able to get out of the vicious circle. Sticky plate effect. Matrix problem. Which, nevertheless, with great therapeutic efforts, is partially or completely healed. It gives hope.
… I will return to the beginning of my article … "Once upon a time there was a woman and she had two daughters: one beloved, the other not …" Dear readers, let the example I have mentioned remind you of the great responsibility that we bear before our children, or rather - before their future, before the happiness or unhappiness triggered by childhood …
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