2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
I have already written about the difficulties people have to face in their lives (and myself in particular). In most cases, difficult situations for people are very similar: lack of time, effort, money, support from loved ones (or there are no close people at all). Many do not have a clear picture at all of where to move in Life, what to do, where to apply themselves. Despite the fact that the problems seem to be the same, people perceive them and react to them in different ways. Some remain to go with the flow, not seeing a way out of the current situation, but most of the conscious and not indifferent to themselves people, nevertheless, try to CHANGE this situation.
But, it often happens that a person seems to understand that his life is not quite the way he wants, or not at all, and he is trying to change SOMETHING: he begins to look for information in different sources, learn from different people, who have already managed to change their lives, receive a new education, develop new skills. Some even radically change their lives: they move to another city or country, leave their family, change their profession to the opposite, or take some other radical measures that even those close to them begin to twirl their fingers at their temples. But … the situation still DOESN'T WANT to change …
Then a reasonable question arises: WHAT AM I DOING WRONG? !!!
Yes, I myself asked myself this question many times, and learned from many people, applied many different techniques, but for some reason the "cart" did not move from a dead center. And only when I learned to look at my problem "from the outside", then, little by little, the answers to my questions began to come. But more on that later…
My clients and participants in my master classes and trainings often tell me: “I don’t know what is stopping me, what problem I have. I DO NOT SEE HER!". And indeed it is, because many problems originate from our childhood. At that time, we were not aware of them, so they "moved" into our subconscious, because the child's psyche cannot be in constant stress - it protects us! When we become adults, these problems (also called trauma) remain to live in our subconscious and, more often, in our body. At the moment when we are trying to solve our urgent tasks, it is that “small” trauma (resentment, destructive belief, fear) that hinders us, or rather continues to PROTECT us!
How does this happen.
For example, you just can't find a decent job, earn a lot of money, there are always some difficulties in the financial sphere: the salary was not paid, the partners "threw", the employer is a "monster and tyrant", bought some expensive thing, and she - not high quality, fake, etc. What, then, should be done? Of course, you can go to coaching or business training courses and "raise" your financial "ceiling", "pump" your resources and competencies. And it will work for a while. But, if in your subconscious mind there is a fear of money or a destructive belief “money is evil” imposed on you in childhood by your close environment, you will still sooner or later slide back into your financial “hole”!
And this happens in all areas of your life!
"And what, all my life now to suffer like this because of these childhood traumas, which I do not remember and do not realize?" - you ask.
In no case! They need to be worked out, looking at the problems from the other side, from a different angle. For example, Art therapy methods effectively help in this, because using these methods, you, practically, INDEPENDENTLY work with your traumas, problems and difficulties, and the art therapist only guides you, giving you various tasks.
What are the methods of Art therapy, I will tell you in other articles, and now please share in the comments if there have been times in your life when you tried to solve some difficulties, but could not see the essence of the problem? How did you deal with this? Did you succeed?
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