FROM DESIRED TO REAL

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Wish and Do - the difference is only one letter (even on the keyboard they are located very close)

but why is it so difficult to fulfill your desires?

How do we get what we want?

This is an extensive topic, so there will be a special article and video in more detail, and now a few quick tips:

✅Clearly define the shape and type of the desired

✅Find out where to go and what to do for this.

✅ We'll have to give up perfectionism. Only that which is not can be ideal.

✅The previous paragraph will provide an opportunity to get rid of procrastination.

✅ Find self-confidence

✅ Persistently and patiently believe and move towards the goal.

✅ Give yourself time to rest. This is the time of dreams and the birth of new desires.

Not so simple!

Very often we consciously want to live well and are ready to do what is necessary.

The thing is that

there are also unconscious attitudes that inhibit the transition from fantasies, conceived ideas and desires to concrete actions.

It is important to figure out which pitfalls interfere with action.

Perhaps, deep down, there is a feeling of unworthiness to live happily and you constantly limit yourself, save, forbid wanting more.

Even when you try, nothing works, you constantly fail, fail.

Or perhaps you feel ashamed that everything is fine with you when others are suffering.

As one of my clients used to say: "Mine is good - it's always someone's bad!"

That is, subconsciously, you recall the law of conservation of energy and mistakenly think that it is taking someone away, but "you cannot build happiness on someone else's grief."

It is the fear of being a winner, because there will be a loser. After all, you cannot be selfish and think only of yourself!

Another belief is that success attracts too much attention, envy. Then you will not be loved at all and will no longer be invited to the company.

Moreover, a sense of responsibility and duty will overtake: you are obliged to share your achievements!

With parents, wife, leave the children an inheritance, pay for lunch for a school loser friend.

And sometimes it is simply not possible to outline a goal and a plan of action, there is no confidence in the right direction of desire.

Do you feel inner discomfort and unpleasant experiences, worry and doubt what people will say?

All this to stop on the way to action and the implementation of your ideas and desires!

What to do with all this and how to be?

Sometimes it only takes a few hours of sessions.

Yulia Youssef's Psychology and Psychoanalysis Cabinet - The Territory of Your Soul.