2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Imagine a conventional line with Respect on one side and Disrespect on the other. On it, a slider that increases or decreases the intensity of the experience.
Depending on the position of the slider on our conditional line, our inner self-awareness and behavior changes.
The respect sensor, let's call it so, has the function of automatic control according to the previously set conditions.
This means that we can manage these processes with the help of awareness, or we can let them go on our own.
In childhood, programs for the sensor are set by our close environment, from which the concept of respect for ourselves and for others is formed.
As we grow, we gain more and more power and control over ourselves, but only where our consciousness can reach. Some deep and strong attitudes remain unconscious, unlived, unanalyzed and surreptitiously influence our perception of the world.
So, with age, we acquire the ability to analyze, make independent decisions, change our minds, etc.
The illusion that since someone has convinced me that there is nothing to respect me can become a pitfall on the way to self-respect, then someone should also convince me. And I, in turn, must convince this someone.
And a person can fall into a trap in which his self-esteem and self-worth depend on the opinions of others. Then we can talk about the lack of support inside.
If They show respect, then everything is fine, but if not … the world collapses, a person loses his calmness, begins to worry, trying to prove that he is not a camel.
Then gentlemen psychologists come in and talk about the notorious shifting of responsibility for their lives onto others.
Realizing that both the sensor and the slider are inside me and the programs, albeit written by someone, are still my personal, which means I can decide what to be inside, and what is outdated and needs to be replaced.
And this means that I no longer need to chase others and beg for their respect, because I can move this slider on my own, which in turn will affect my behavior and attitude towards myself and the world.
And the world … the world will accept what it reads in your eyes, in your actions, in your words.
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