Love Triangle. A Case From Practice. Interpretations

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

The love triangle situation is not uncommon in people's lives. From the outside, everything looks simple, but getting out or not entering such a relationship is often a difficult task.

I will name our heroes: a married couple Vadim and Tatiana, and Vadim's mistress Svetlana.

Vadim and Tatiana have been living together for 2 years, there are no children (there are plans for them in a wonderful future).

Vadim, 32 years old, a successful entrepreneur, an interesting man with two higher educations and knowledge of 4 foreign languages, a careerist (in a word, a narcissist).

In the past he was married, divorced, a 5-year-old daughter from marriage, lives with his ex-wife in another city.

Tatiana, 29 years old, no children, was married, divorced. He works as a manager in a large company, has a good stable income, a social package, dreams of an official marriage with Vadim and children, cooks deliciously, doesn’t give a soul in her husband (they say “chamomile girl”).

Svetlana, 34 years old, beautiful, showy and smart, was married, divorced, has a son for 7 years. He works as a general practitioner, dreams of meeting a worthy man to create a family, and here he is! Vadim! The first effect of charm, love, honeymoon and more. Svetlana quickly learns that Vadim is not free, which, of course, is not happy, but feelings take over …

Vadim promises a wonderful future, love, a fairy tale and all that, but for this Svetlana must wait for him while he understands himself and decides to leave Tanya. But the decision is somehow not made, he feels sorry for Tanya, he tells Sveta about Tanya's dependence on him, lack of independence, says that he does not want to be a scoundrel and again tempts Sveta to wait and be with him in a triangle (not well, for the sake of a wonderful future- why not?).

He swears that he has no intimate relationship with his wife and with all his actions leads her to parting (allegedly moved to another room to sleep on the couch). Outwardly, everything is wonderful. Vadim spent whole days with Sveta, calls her his beloved woman, stays the night, showing that he leaves his wife for her, his beloved, takes care, buys food, refills her car, takes her son to school and even managed to get to know his mother! How can you not believe in love ?! What to say about intimacy, how many emotions! Happiness! But only there are periods in Svetlana's life that some of this happiness is not real …

Because sometimes he again and again goes to his wife, to fulfill his marital duty … And Svetlana is left alone. She is waiting. She begins to depend (if she arrives, her beloved will not come …) She looks out the window at the gate that she opened when she saw his car … But in fact she is waiting for a "dad" from her distant childhood, who will come and bring love, happiness, a miracle … for her little daughter and will protect from a very strict mother, save … And a daughter should be a good girl and obey. And Svetlana obeys, she endures a love polygon from the position of a little girl, because otherwise everything will collapse and then there will be no one to bring happiness and care, to make a fairy tale in life … Sometimes a "grown woman" is included in Svetlana (which, by the way, thank God!) who says to her: "Brrr, what nonsense? Axtis! Why is there another woman?"

Dear, I can’t do this, please, be a grown man, solve this issue, I’m ready to wait, but not in a triangle, but decide - I’m yours forever.”But Vadim doesn’t need an adult woman. He doesn’t know what to do with He himself has not yet grown up to be a real man. And sometimes it is easier to play the role of a dad with obedient wives-daughters or the role of a little boy and a mother who will take care, understand and accept him so everyone, indecisive, weak, with poop … feed, serve and put him to sleep.

Approximately the same dependence is formed in Tatyana (obedient father's daughter, caring unconditional mother, but not an adult woman who is interested in where her husband goes at night … isn't it strange?). More sad. The situation seems hopeless. If you do not change roles and everyone does not become an adult in this story. Not entering or leaving the triangle is possible only under the condition of an adult position (personality, boundaries, comfort zone, respect for oneself and a partner, the formation of deep emotional ties). Relationships between adults imply equal positions, taking into account the wishes of each partner. In this triangle, all positions are dependent. Daughters should obey, and mothers should give unconditional love to the child and forgive everything (even connections on the side, by the way). For Svetlana, there is no way out - to take Vadim away from his wife and start living with him.

Because from this story we see what happens to a woman who in the future becomes Vadim's wife. A new mistress may come and defeat her. For Svetlana, the right way out is to lose in this triangle and remain a grown woman. Lonely or not - a matter of time, I guess. Because for an adult woman, there are still prospects of meeting an adult man, but no longer being either a daughter or a mother to him. We will work on this with her further. What this couple will have, I do not know. But it will be difficult for them.

Because, left alone, until another regular Vadim appears again (and this is most likely, given his infantile position in marriage), this couple will have nowhere to drain their tension and aggression except on each other. For this, Vadim found Sveta in his time to feed on new energy and then return to his house being in a resource state (a kind of vampire).

Mistresses are a powerful stabilizer for a dysfunctional family. I would like to say in the end: I hope everyone will be fine … But I will not. Everyone will have the way he organizes it for himself in his life.