Psychologist's Work: Interesting And Useful 10

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Good afternoon dear friends!

Today I bring to your attention the tenth, anniversary:), part of the mixes on therapeutic work. I am waiting, as always, for your additions in the comments. Thank you!

So:

- our task as psychologists is to maintain the client's awareness process. If something happens, for example, in the same therapeutic work (the client tells about something, for example, about her quarrel, with a man), then it is important not to go into merging, acting out, etc., but first of all to help the client understand him feelings, motives, patterns of behavior and so on. For example, for a woman, a man's apology may first of all mean confession to them not only that he admitted his guilt, realized that he was wrong and will try to correct himself, but that he is generally to blame for the current situation. And here it turns out that the more you apologize, the more, apparently, you find yourself guilty and wrong. Although in the male picture of the world, it is enough to simply apologize. This is an admission that you are wrong, your responsibility for what happened, a promise (most often) to act differently the next time, and so on. And he may be surprised when, after apologies, new reproaches begin on the same occasion. It is important to show and explain everything. Even if such patterns unfold directly in therapy;

- if the client speaks exclusively himself or most of the time in therapy, then this may indicate such things: it is important for him to hear himself, to understand, to sort everything out for himself; it is important for him to “let off steam” at the same time; or maybe he is used to only “feeding” himself and there is no skill of asking for help, using another for oneself, and so on. It is important to understand what is happening, to maintain awareness;

- if a client shares his experiences, especially at the beginning of a meeting, it is important to support his emotions and support them for now, and not interrupt with questions from logic. It is important to share his feelings with him, and when they are a little lived through and the client himself will speak more from logic, then it is already possible to ask questions from logic, for example. That is, it is important to be on the same wavelength, not to interfere with worry. Of course, there are exceptions to the rules, but, nevertheless …;

- clients in their lives can experience various intrapersonal conflicts. For example, there is a desire to do something, and shame and guilt for this desire. So we are working, figuring out why it’s embarrassing, why it’s important to do something, and so on.

I'll stop for now.

See you!