HOW TO FIGHT LAZY AND WHY CANNOT WE DO WHAT WE PLANNED?

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

It happened to everyone that once having planned to do something for yourself in the near future, you could not force yourself to fulfill your plan, whether it was writing a report, cleaning the house, promising to go to the gym from today, go for a run, get busy, etc. We postpone everything until tomorrow, and when tomorrow comes we find excuses why we can do it later, we do any nonsense, but just not what is needed. The same applies to more global goals in life. And so it is repeated an infinite number of times.

Let's look at this with a specific example: physical training.

Why is this happening?

1. Fear

You are afraid of what others will think, you feel embarrassed and cannot train when someone is looking at you, they may even devalue your efforts. Fear of changes, changes in life that will entail the achievement of the goal: you already do not have time, but where else to stick training, how will you have time to do everything? If I achieve good results, then I will need to support them so that everything does not go down the drain, and this is completely energy-consuming. Uncertainty (How can I do this and what will happen then? After all, I will have to change something in my life), fear of failure, that all your efforts will be in vain and bring nothing.

2. Imposed values

You don't need it too much. Fashionable to exercise, to lead a healthy lifestyle, to look like from the cover. In your social circle, this is considered prestigious. But you think that you already feel great and objectively you do not need it.

3. Disorganization

You think you still have a lot of time until summer to get in shape. The day has passed, and you have not allocated time. Not today so tomorrow, not tomorrow so the day after tomorrow and in the same spirit. Or you have a goal, but you are rather vague, not specific.

How to deal with this and what to do?

1. Try to determine how deep your fear is. It has been going on since childhood, or it is situational and associated with stress recently. Specify exactly what you are afraid of: you are not afraid of what will be looked at during training, but that they will think badly of you at the same time. Then analyze how objective it is. It is quite possible that this is just your fantasy and irrational fear: why would anyone think badly of you, everyone once started, and who cares about what you are doing and how you do it. If, nevertheless, fear is objective, write down all the negative and positive consequences on a piece of paper. What happens if you fail or if you don't do it at all (-) and what you can achieve (+). And objectively assess what will be more important for you and how justified the risk is.

2. Answer yourself to the question why are you doing this? Try to give as many answers as possible, at least 3-5 as a last resort.

"Why do I want to go jogging every morning?"

1) I love to run.

2) My significant other wants me to do it.

3) Because everyone is running.

4) I want to start the day cheerful.

5) I want to be in shape and feel good."

Which of these motives are exclusively yours? And what relatives and society imposed on you. Also, if there are a lot of motives that are not yours on the list, but you still need to do it, try to look from a different angle and find positive sides for yourself.

3. Specify your goal and deadline. Due to the fact that you do not have a concrete idea of when it needs to be done, it remains for later. If you decide for yourself that this must be done today, this task will appear in your plan for the day, and will not hang for the whole month.

1) What to do? (Go jogging 3 times a week).

2) When? (Today and the following days in the evening at 19:00 for an hour).

3) Why? (I want to look attractive).

Set yourself ideal and intermediate goals so as not to stop there: ideally, I want to run 7 days a week for an hour and a half starting at 19:00. Intermediate: 1) 2 days for half an hour for the first three weeks. 2) 4 days for an hour in a month and a half. 3) 5 days for an hour and a half in three months. It is better to set an ideal goal that is practically unattainable at the moment, so that after reaching it you will not stop your efforts, but will be able to consolidate your result.