Psychologist-hot-water Bottle

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

Cold. In front of me is a cup. I pour boiling water into it, stir it. I sit down in a chair and take a slow sip. Warmly.

A client sits across from me. She's cold. She takes her cup of tea and looks down and takes the first sip. Swallows hot liquid greedily. The second hand hugs the cup and its fingers move slightly. There is still warm moisture on the lips. We're starting to get warm.

She looks away, her gaze is filled with sadness, she is sad. Today she is sad. Hands are still hugging the cup of tea, it is so warm. She likes this warmth, and the warmth likes to go over to her. Gradually she raises her gaze and our eyes are already on the same line, on the same line of heat transfer.

Keep warm in therapy !? Yes! A lot of clients, in addition to their basic requests, come just for this, for human warmth. A warm psychologist about whom you can warm yourself, he sits opposite, he is ready to give warmth. Mental warmth.

There is interesting data that suggests that today there are thousands of psychological techniques and approaches, there are a lot of directions and schools. They all have an equal right to exist and they all speak about the same thing, just in different ways, in different languages and dialects. In different forms and in different ways. And what is most interesting is that all these directions and trends are equally effective. Ultimately, all psychotherapy is reduced exclusively to the person of the psychotherapist himself. It is he who is the locomotive that drives the client's changes in therapy. It is the therapist's soul that heals, not the method in which he works. Soul healing. Where the souls of the client and the psychologist unite and healing takes place.

Yes, the personality of the psychologist is an extremely important part of the therapy. The success of therapy largely depends on which psychotherapist.

It is also interesting that it takes about two years of therapeutic relationship to change the patterns and "psychology" of a person as a whole.

Slowly the office is getting warmer. Her eyes are already filled with sparks of joy, and she wants to tell everything that she thought of going to the meeting. Lips move while speaking the text, eyes shine, hands move in time with feelings. My attention is directed to her, I penetrate her space and position myself at a safe distance. Her hands reach for a fictional fireplace in which a fire is burning, bringing warmth and peace. She rubs her palms together and then brings them to her cheeks. We are warm.

She tells me that it hurt, and I mentally take her into my arms. She calms down. I ask her what she wants in the future, and she mentally cries on my shoulder dreaming of real warmth. There is a coffee table between us, and we hug each other.

I put my cup on the table. The tea is drunk. Her cup is half empty, the leftover tea is cold.

There are new notes in her look. It is the feeling that you can be warm and cozy, that it is possible, it is real. I feel like her thoughts are already far in the future.

I tell her that during our meeting she has time to be herself. To be in the state in which she is now and not be afraid of it. Maybe she is tired of it, maybe it scares her, but there is space to be herself and be accepted. During this hour we can live this short and eventful life as we want. Do it together, feel support and warmth. Human warmth whose source is great.

Our time has come to an end and we say goodbye until next time. I give her this warmth and accompany her to the exit. She, a little embarrassed, crumples my present in her palms and carefully hides it in her coat pocket. For some time, the heat will warm her, and then, when she is ready, she will put her warmth in her pocket, what was given to her from birth, with which she can always warm her hands without a cup of hot tea.

See you in a week. She hides her filled gaze and hides behind the door.