2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Knowing when to let go is very important.
It cuts waste, maintains mental health and well-being so you can move forward towards the best relationships you deserve. Below are 4 reasons that indicate the time has come to unlink. If you find any of them, it's probably a strong enough argument to leave.
1. Kindness has disappeared
While chemistry and shared values are important, at the end of the day, strong bonds are built on the kindness that exists between two people. This is what keeps the relationship. This is goodwill towards each other, when you take the side of your partner, even if he may be wrong, the willingness to forgive shortcomings and mistakes, tolerance for his or her annoying habits. It is support, admiration, respect, dedication and commitment. All this does not disappear suddenly, but slowly collapses over time. Gradually, tenderness weakens, giving way to chronic irritability, anger, detachment, meanness and lack of respect. Unfortunately, when kindness disappears, there is usually so much harm in a relationship that it is very difficult to repair it.
2. You are not respected
Respect is one of the most important aspects of any interaction. It probably trumps trust because you can't trust someone who doesn't respect you. Even small battles matter because how someone treats you ultimately reveals their character and true feelings about you. Disrespect can come in many forms and you may not always be able to fully recognize it, but you will always feel it. It is that mental discomfort that you feel when some normative expectation that exists between you has been violated. Insulting, lying, or cheating is disrespectful, and what they really show is a lack of concern about how you feel and how these actions affect you.
If you're not sure if the person is intentionally disrespecting you, talk about your feelings. If the partner tries to understand and change his behavior, by doing so he will show concern. But if you are rejected, and they constantly return to the same thing, then this is indifference to you and your connection.
3. You try too hard
The flow of energy between two people is usually equal in most healthy interactions. Giving and accepting should allow both of them to feel like they are fulfilling their needs. When a relationship starts to deteriorate, it can feel like one person is doing all the work of keeping in touch, which creates imbalance and disconnection. The one who does all the work may become resentful, and the one who gets more and more self-righteous. When you try too hard to get someone to come to you, what usually happens? They move in the opposite direction. If you feel like you've done most of the relationship work lately, take a big step back and see what happens. If your partner starts to give up and comes up to you, then the possibility of re-alignment of energy still exists. If, however, you step back and your loved one gets angry or keeps drifting further, then chances are he or she will not come back.
4. It's all about something else
While everything is individual, both people usually need to feel that each has room to grow and develop. Fulfill your individual dreams and aspirations in life. Have space for their interests to be included in the relationship, and ample opportunity to meet everyone's needs. Interactions that are unbalanced in this regard tend to revolve around one of the partners. The person around whom everything revolves is generally satisfied, while the other feels resentment and, as if he is living someone else's life. If this sounds familiar to you, try to create some place for yourself and talk about your desires. If your lover is angry or unresponsive, then it is likely that you will have to move on to find yourself and maintain your identity.
Goodbyes are never easy, but maintaining respect and dignity is the key to your psychological well-being. And sometimes letting go is the best thing you can do for yourself. When you take care of yourself, you do your best to be in a happy and healthy relationship. And it's just a matter of time to find them.
Material provided by the Psychological Center "Transformation" (Kiev)
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