2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
"Release the depressed feelings of the depressed person and the depressed state will pass."
(Alexander Lowen)
The presence of negative feelings in a person's unconscious is responsible for the destruction of his self-esteem, because they undermine the foundations of lasting self-awareness. Every person who has become depressed has not allowed themselves to express their negative feelings before. He spent all his energy trying to prove himself worthy of love. Whatever self-respect he fosters, it will still rest on a shaky foundation, and its collapse will be inevitable. At the same time, the energy expended in trying to realize the illusion was diverted from the real purpose of life - pleasure and satisfaction from one's being as such. The energy recovery process, which relies on pleasure, has been severely impaired. As a result, a person found himself without a foundation to stand on, and without energy with which to move. The activity of any animal organism is aimed at obtaining pleasure either now or in the future. It can be concluded from this statement that the body also moves and acts to avoid pain. When pleasure is absent, motivation decreases accordingly. The return of energy decreases - the energy level of the body decreases. When the lack of pleasure is due to an inability to enjoy it, then we have a person whose emotional reactions are limited and, moreover, whose internal level of excitability is low. Such a person is the number one contender for a depressive reaction.
A depressed person does not trust his body. He learned to control it and bend to his will. He cannot believe that it will function normally without being urged on by his will. And we must admit that in his depressed state, it really seems to be unable to do this. He does not understand that his body has become depleted due to its long service to the demands of an inflated ego. He views his depression as a collapse of his will, rather than physical exhaustion. Therefore, he is most concerned with regaining this willpower; and he will try to achieve this goal even at the expense of the body's need to get better and restore its energy reserves. This attitude will postpone his recovery indefinitely.
The second conflict is associated with a feeling of helplessness, which the depressed person cannot accept. He had already experienced helplessness before, as an infant or child, in a situation that he perceived as a threat to his existence. He survived and overcame his sense of helplessness at the expense of tremendous willpower. The collapse of the will creates in him a feeling of complete powerlessness, against which, in his opinion, he must continue to fight. This struggle is exacerbated by feelings of guilt that stem from a repressed feeling of helplessness. His failure to pull himself out of despondency becomes a reason for self-condemnation, which digs the hole in which he sits even deeper. In a depressed state, you can find traces of self-destructive forces acting within the personality.
Blocking emotions increases (and may lead to) depression.
Human nature is such that he resists his pain. There is something masochistic about the way he blocks the expression of his pain-related emotions. Oddly enough, in our culture, it is customary to admire a person who can stoically bear a loss without expressing any emotion. What is such a great advantage of suppressing feelings? When expression is restrained, the flow of life is restricted. This will then lead to further suppression of feelings and ultimately to death while still alive. Depression is a living death.
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