WHEN ON THE EDGE

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

This article is for those who are VERY bad. When it seems that the whole world is against you, when it seems that life has arranged a real persecution. When the only question torments me - WHAT IS ALL THIS FOR? When your personal life is bursting at the seams, when finances unanimously show you a big fat fig. When everything that previously formed a complete picture of your world literally CRASHES INTO THE EYES! What is dear leaves, you lose what you love. When it is already completely unclear why, for what to live. And most importantly - HOW to live after all that shit that happened in your life

I'll tell you a story now. When I was 5-7 years old (I don't remember exactly), I picked up a kitten on the street, very small. She brought him home, poured milk into a saucer and set him down next to her. And he is hungry, screaming like crazy, and what I want from him - he doesn't understand. And screaming … And hungry … I started pushing him to the saucer, trying to dip a little pug into milk, and he resists, scratches, screams even louder, now also from resentment and outrage for such violence against him! It rests on all its paws, dodges. And I try to be careful, not to put too much pressure on him. In general, until I put him in this saucer, he never started drinking. When half a face was already in the milk, he realized that this is food, that it is edible, that it can be eaten!

You are now like that kitten. Life bales you, and you resist. You meow plaintively and try to break out of this vital mess. You feel how life has you, and life is trying to show you a saucer in which milk is poured … You resist, because what is happening at the moment in your life is not according to plan, you did not ask for it, you did not want it and what is even more frightening - you have absolutely NO IMAGINATION of what will happen next !!! There is no terrain map, which means there is no certainty that there will be a gap further, that it will be better further. If you can't see, but you can't do anything - release your grip, loosen control, since you still can't control the situation. Relax and have fun, as they say. The kitten, too, could not think that as a result of such a barbaric attitude towards him, he would receive food …

And life does not bale just like that. This is ABSOLUTELY EXACT. Any crisis in life is the result of the accumulated inconsistencies (the desired - with actions, conscious requests - with subconscious attitudes, plans and tasks - with the result). This is an opportunity to revise your values, your worldview, your attitude. This is an opportunity to rethink what you are doing WRONG.

And if life is not sweet, and it seems that it is easier to give up, leave, give up, then remember that kitten. You are him.

If the crisis has dragged on, if the black stripe has already turned into a full-fledged clearing, then:

1) you continue to resist; 2) you still did not understand anything, reassessment, rethinking of what is happening in your life and FOR WHAT (and NOT WHY!) - did not happen.

Life always gives milk (I just want to say "for harm"). How soon you get it depends on how much you are ready to survive what is initially perceived as bullying.

(C) Anna Maksimova, psychologist