Who Should Earn: A Man Or A Woman?

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

I'll try to connect two themes: financial success and relationships.

Women want their men to earn a lot.

But most of them just want to put on the shoulders of men what they cannot do on their own. This is a discharge of responsibility. And this is not very good, first of all, for the woman herself.

The less she is able to make money, the more she depends on a man. And the more she will bend and be afraid to let him go

But since she honestly cannot admit this to herself, then everything begins "he is a goat, he owes me, beautiful." And all sorts of manipulations, assaults and "Vedic techniques" are used.

She massages his legs, and praises him, and all that, and he just sat without money, and sits. Then she begins to freak out, because according to the rules of the trainings, he should have earned for a long time: it was enough for her to grow a braid, put on a skirt and cook borscht at home. But instead of taking care of herself and her strength, what she really influences, she put everything into expectations that, thanks to her "correct" actions, the man will suddenly become an alpha male, and will begin to do what has never been before her. did.

And then a trap awaits her. Such a woman falls into a crisis of hyperresponsibility. After all, she knows from trainings that wealth in a family depends on a woman. And since there is no money, then she begins to harass and accuse herself. After all, if the husband is still without money, it means that she is not a sufficiently correct woman and did not drive the kundalini that way.

And besides her anger at the man (and since the expectations were not met, then the anger there oh-oh-oh) is also added to anger at herself. Both types of anger are unproductive because they don't lead to any solution.

If she starts kicking her husband, he will begin to leave her (or simply close inside himself), but there will be no more money from this. If she torments herself with guilt and self-flagellation, she will grab some psychosomatics, but still remain weak and without money.

To get rid of the illusion of female omnipotence on the theme “a real woman can make a cool macho out of any schmuck,” you need to understand this

Not all men can earn a lot

The amount of money and earnings depends entirely on the personality of a man, his core and the scale of personal responsibility, strength, courage and proactivity (non-sacrifice). And if a man has little to do with this, then he will have the same amount of money. And it is not in the power of women to pump it at all, no matter how Vedic they are.

Yes, there is some kind of external female motivation that will inspire a man to feats and make him jump over his head. But this motivation will help a very small percentage of men.

This is possible in cases where the man himself is not completely downtrodden and not drowned in life. If he made good money before the woman (that is, he was already quite developed), but then a woman came and wanted a little more than he needed. Such a man may well start earning even more. Because he already knows how and how it is. It's like an athlete who, in principle, is ready for training, but did not want to receive special medals, and then there was an incentive. That is, the body is accustomed to training, it is just that the program will now become more intense. Yes, he is only glad.

But this is only one case. In others, a woman can be almost useless, and no matter how much you motivate, he did not want to go to the gym (earn money), and will not start.

Understand one simple point.

Only the man himself can raise a man

Everything. Dot.

Because personal growth is a matter of inner choice

You cannot pump up muscles for another, no matter how much you go to the gym instead of him. If you think that pushing and banging on the head "you do not earn much, are you a man or who?" either encourage him to grow, sometimes not. He must make this choice himself. And he must have a very strong motivation for this. But the motivation is internal. And readiness. And courage. And determination. And this is not something that a woman can give from the outside.

It should also be borne in mind that there are two types of men for whom any external female infusion is not a special stimulus for development

The first type is mothers and sons

Men who are accustomed to the fact that a woman was created to simplify his life, and are always ready to do anything for them.

If they meet a woman's reluctance to please him, then grievances, claims and manipulations begin “you just do not love me enough”.

The thing here is that if a Vedic woman thinks that her attention and gratification from her husband will make him want to grow up and do something for her, then in the picture of the world of mothers' sons, gratification and female attention is the default option. Basic equipment, so to speak. And this is not something that motivates, but something that is not even perceived as something special. This is what should be a priori. Lack of attention and bliss is perceived painfully, but only as the fact that something is wrong in this regard to me.

The second type, which is not particularly trained by "Vedic" women, are narcissistic and self-centered narcissists

These are people who initially consider themselves a gift for a woman. Like, the fact that they agreed to be paired with her is already a weighty argument for her to enjoy life. After all, she has access to his royal body. Therefore, none of her "Vedic" tricks are not motivation for him.

The moment here is such that these narcissists may well be successful at work, because their narcissism drives them to be better at everything and makes them work hard, earn a lot in order to wipe their nose with other men.

But one must understand that it is again not in the power of a woman to influence him. Most likely, he himself will always set different conditions for her, and she will already have to put up with them. And the conditions can be very different, up to “do you want me to be happy? So you have to let me sleep with other women, because then I am happy."

At the same time, there are very few levers of influence on such men. And this, rather, will be her rigid boundaries, a designation of what kind of behavior she does not accept with herself, than indulgence and all sorts of soft flowing waves of energy.

Egocentrics extend their boundaries to almost everything that is in their access, and what is within their boundaries is taken for granted and therefore not particularly worthy of attention.

That is why one of the ways to become visible and meaningful for him is to have an opinion different from his, and to represent something from himself. And this is impossible, being dependent. And the absence of one's own earnings is a direct path to addiction.

Therefore, no matter what the Vedas and other sources write, a woman should be able to earn money

Yes, there is no need to go into fanaticism and work 16 hours a day immediately after the birth of a child. But she herself needs this skill and this ability so that she feels calmer. There should be at least a minimal part-time job to keep yourself in good shape and not lose your abilities. This will allow her to feel equal in the relationship, and not curry favor and endure.

Again, no matter what they say, “whoever pays dances”

If a man fully supports a woman, then he considers himself entitled to set conditions for her and make demands on what should be and how.

In the fantasies of nymphs craving easy money, such a man happily and easily buys cars and apartments for her, but does not ask her for anything, happily watches her capriciously curling her lips and considers herself obliged to please her.

In reality, if he buys and gives, then he can definitely demand something in return. But it turns out that the woman does not want to obey. She wants to get all the bonuses, but not donate anything. It will not happen. She still has to. Therefore, a woman should be aware of herself. That she will either be addicted or work on herself.

But let's return to the topic of money and why it is important that a middle-aged man can already earn money and be at least moderately well off

If a person lived for 30-40-50 years without money, then he had specific reasons for this. These are all sorts of beliefs that money is evil, dangerous, unworthy and all that. This is personal cowardice, infantilism, sacrifice and further down the list. The reasons for a woman are not so important to know. It is important to understand that his money muscles, which were supposed to pass the flows of money energy through themselves, are sufficiently atrophied. And he's stuck at the level of thinking of a low-income person. And not just got stuck, but quite adapted, reconciled, lowered the level of desires to the level of possibilities.

If a woman thinks that a man up to 40 years old lived without money, and then she came through such training, began to walk in front of him with long hair in a long skirt without panties, and he rrraz and how he starts earning a lot, then no, this will not happen

The sooner women get rid of this idea in their heads, the faster their lives will change

Persistent patterns of behavior live in people, developed and consolidated by many years of experience. These are the built-in neural connections in the brain that create the momentum for change.

Therefore, it is very difficult for men who have lived without money for a long time to move to another level of earnings

These are usually men with low self-esteem. Because a man cannot value himself highly and at the same time sit without money. This is unrealistic. It's like being an ugly girl and at the same time considering yourself the most in-demand in the world. That is, there are such people, but they live in three-meter protective layers of illusions, with which they protect their psyche from being damaged by reality.

No man without money will feel one hundred percent confident in life. Because he is not sure that he can give it to himself, to provide for himself and the woman. They may not give a look and not cry every day about it, but deep down they definitely doubt their relevance, need and abilities. Because the conviction that "a man without money is not a man" sits very firmly in their heads.

But the mistake here is not that he is not a man at all. And the fact that he simply does not understand that while the scale of his masculine strength is very small. And the scale is something that can be pumped

But this is a matter of internal choice.

The main thing is to stop blaming others for your troubles and see yourself responsible for all the events in your life. It is clear that few make this choice. And those who do not do so and sit without money. And no matter how you pound him or walk in front of him without panties, he will not make such a decision. Because responsibility and obstacles are more frightening than the loss of a woman.

Because if a man lives for a long time without sufficient money, with a scarcity mentality, with self-doubt, as in a man, with little contentment, then his consciousness is rearranged on these rails. And it is very difficult to pull him out of them without his help and desire. Almost unrealistic.

And to be honest, I am very wary of men who earn little and do not particularly strive. Not because I need their money, but because it speaks about the level of their psychological maturity. And I do not plan to mess with the child and grow up. It should be his choice. And I'll take care of my growing up for now.

Why is it dangerous to contact such men

Men are very competitive individuals. They want to be the best, in demand, surrounded by the most beautiful women.

Even the most omega-males (that is, the downtrodden and tucked-up) dream of the first beauties of the world lining up to them. But since they are omegas, the situation with women is usually not very good for them, that is, the queues do not line up. There would be money, they could buy attention, but there is no money. And they do not exist for the very same reason - low self-esteem and complete self-doubt. But with all this, the desire to gorge itself on female attention and general recognition does not disappear anywhere.

And what happens to these men if money suddenly comes to them

If they began to make money gradually, then, most likely, their self-esteem began to gradually increase and they already became a little more confident. Therefore, there is a chance that the tower will not be blown off strongly. But the thirst for retribution and compensation will still manifest itself in the form of hoarding and self-indulgence in all possible areas.

And it so happens that money suddenly came to those who were not ready for it, and whose deficit was so strong that they begin to consume everything. And then the roof blows off tightly.

Such men go wild, buy themselves all kinds of expensive toys, try to prove to everyone that now they are alphas, actively begin to shoot everyone around women, just to compensate for what has not been in their lives for so long.

If you watched the TV series "Fargo", then you can see what happens to the main character when he has turned from a downtrodden insurance seller into a tough barter. It happened abruptly, he got hold of the goods, but inside he remained a child, who was brought to the store and said "take what you want." You know how it ended.

And often this happens after a woman has influenced a man. She seemed to endure his brain so that he became cooler, pumped, demanded, he began to earn money, but the joy of this shrew next to him no longer works.

And since he is with the bubble now, it means that a bunch of young and beautiful maidens have automatically appeared around. Yes, they are next to him because of money, but who cares if you have a hunger for attention, need, demand and feeling like a mega-man. And he packs up his things and leaves this wife of his “who made him a man”.

She, of course, curses him on what the light is, because her calculation was such that she would put all of herself into him, and in response he would begin to bear fruit for her like a heavenly apple tree.

But it was not there.

The paradise apple tree turned out to have its own plans for life and where to spend its resources. And the woman remains at a broken trough.

And this is another reason why women need to pump themselves in the first place. Because she never knows if there will be a man next to her, or if he will leave because of her nasty character, because of the fact that another will appear, because she will change her orientation or move to work to live on another continent. A woman cannot influence this. And he can. And on their ability to survive alone.

But there are women who are so afraid of these consequences that they prefer not to invest at all and keep men in a black body. Like, if I caress and warm him, then he, the brute, will feel cool and leave me. Therefore, let him not relax, and I will rarely give him my love (mega-great God’s whim) and only for his merits.

This man, of course, is not particularly happy, he begins to think that he is not very welcome here, and no, no, and he will look around. And when some nymph appears, who, from what he is, will shine with happiness and pour compliments on him, quickly pack up and go to the left.

And this is another reason why you need to pump yourself.

If a woman is confident in herself and is not afraid to generously give out her love, then the man will be more attuned to bestowal

And only one who is confidently confident in himself can give, who always has everything in abundance, who is not afraid to weaken, once again saying or doing something good. And who understands the rule of life that in order to receive, one must first give.

But at the same time, one must not make a man responsible for his life. And then he, too, will be afraid to let go of such a woman. If he sees that she herself is full, does not demand anything from him, if he has to and can give something herself, then "such a cow is needed by himself."

But again, only two strong and confident people can give generously and not be afraid of it. And whatever one may say, but in order to be strong and confident in a relationship, it is imperative to be able to earn money. It is not the amounts and not the bills that are important here, but precisely the inner strength that will allow you to take and give, interact with people, rely on yourself and not become addicted.

The less a woman is able to earn, the more goats around her. After all, everyone who did not give her what she wanted, automatically become goats. This one didn’t pay - a goat, this one didn’t buy - a goat, this one didn’t take to a restaurant - a goat. In general, such a woman lives in the menagerie. And all around her are trained cats that owe her. But only the cats do not think so, and have long fled

And if she herself can pay, buy, take to a restaurant, then the man is already being considered not for benefits, but for interest and partnership. Yes, and it is more pleasant for a man to pay not when they demand, but because he feels so much stronger. And if he understands that he will become a goat, if he does not pay, then he can pay, but the next time he may not want to meet.

And at the same time, it is important that the man also has a core and income. After all, if a woman earns, but a man does not, but at the same time she is very carried away by him, then there is a chance to feed the gigolo and fall into a different kind of addiction (emotional, sexual), or turn into a mommy, which will kill any sex over time.

That is why it is necessary to choose those men who earn. Because they rather have a certain personality core. But it is important to stand on her feet herself at the same time.

But as with any rule, there are always exceptions

Major boys

Or all those who got money from their parents or by accident. They may well be the same spoiled daffodils with exaggerated demands on your attention and a small degree of return.

That is, they have money, but as individuals they did not take place. And therefore, the expectation that “he will support me” is very often not justified. Because such people live for themselves.

Oddly enough, but these are programmers (not all)

Now the situation is that a programmer is automatically a very wealthy person. Because the market has created a situation where it can get a lot, but inside it remain the same drugged and tied nerd. And there are a lot of such programmers. Because while the bad boys were hanging out with the girls and getting their first experiences of relationships, the programming boys were learning the code, and therefore, many sex communication skills are now at the level of 15 years (forgive me the programmers reading this, I have great respect for you, but statistically it is).

And these boys become quick prey for predatory girls who saw in the market an opportunity not to grow up and find easy prey for themselves. I told him a couple of compliments, that is, beckoned him with a skirt and potential sex, and now he is ready to marry = bring her apples of heaven.

Therefore, boy programmers should actively pump themselves too. Because the worse their personal core is, the easier it will be for girls to manipulate them on the topic “you have to, otherwise I’ll leave, and you will only dream about sex”.

And we get crowds of henpecked programmers, because it’s so scary to be left alone again and without a woman, that I’ll just follow her lead.

You can say, well, think about it, a problem. I can follow the lead. And the problem is this - no matter what women say, they still do not respect men without a core and their own opinion.

That is, in the end, she will be happy to receive money and apples, but she will not perceive a man as a man. And it is quite possible that a smart and beautiful woman will find someone on her side. So swing, male programmers, become strong and powerful. Then you will be appreciated and pleased.

Since now almost everyone who understood that this is a gold mine has already gone to programmers, the number of nerds and non-botanists is compared. But all the same, the interpersonal skills of many leave much to be desired.

Who shakes and raises a man

His choice

When a man makes challenges for himself in life and strives for the heights. This is often associated with ambition and a desire to prove something to someone. But the reason is not important here, how much is the understanding that this stimulates him to develop.

The desire to please the woman you love (there are many nuances and conditions)

If he decided that he loves this woman so much that he is ready to do anything for her. He didn't love himself very much, and he didn't want to do much for himself, but he fell in love with a woman. Here, again, that the level of aspirations for life was low, which means that self-esteem was like that. Those who value themselves low also want little from life. Therefore, all these shoals with a future thirst for compensation may well arise.

Of course, they may not. If a woman turns out to be such a muse-muse, and at the same time will love him just as much. But there are much fewer such pairs than those where these jambs with a core and self-esteem do not then crawl out sideways. Because what a man considers to be “pumping” may in fact turn out to be just adjusting himself to a woman's “want”. And this is a completely different story.

Competition shakes the man

If not, of course. Competition can kill if the boy grew up talented and capable, and everything was given to him well and easily, and especially he did not have to compete with anyone. And he grew up with a sense of his chosenness and talent. And then he entered another competitive environment (of the same programmers), and it turned out that everything was not so rosy as he had imagined. And his code is not the most beautiful, and he is not the best startup.

And it can be very easy to cover such a man. Because the muscles of competition and perseverance did not develop in him while others were fighting. And if a man is generally stable, with a hint of a core, then competition will temper him and make him stronger. And if his ability to resist others is poorly developed, then the trouble is: procrastination, depression and psychosomatics. Therefore, men should definitely pump themselves. Love challenges and strong-willed efforts.

A man can pump himself up in trainings or in psychotherapy

But this must be his deliberate choice. If there is no such choice, then no one will bring up a person by force and drag. That is why all female illusions on the topic “he is not very good, but I will remake him” are doomed to failure.

If a woman remakes him, he will quietly hate her. And when, thanks to her efforts, he is altered, he will joyfully throw off the yoke.

There is an option that it will not be altered, then the woman is doomed to “spend the best years of her life on it”. Although if she does not lie to herself, she will understand that she spent years of her life waiting for him to finally begin to bear fruit with heavenly apples. That is, I just wanted to use it.

And if she were honest and strong, she would say “Boy, you’re good, but I’m not going to remake you” and would leave. If her departure becomes such a horror for him that he decides to take up himself and begins to actively work on himself, then perhaps this will turn him on to growth and the choice to become better.

But it is quite possible that he will remain downtrodden and tucked up, because female love does not cover all those internal cockroaches with which he lived a fairly large chunk of his life.

No one can forcibly remake anyone. Everyone can only deal with themselves. And such a person may well be able to live independently. But only weak individuals are very scared to think about how it is, to live on their own. If you say to them “become strong and you will not be so scared”, they do not believe. Just like the hungry one does not understand that the well-fed one does not want to eat. As a lazy fat man, he does not understand that men can get high from Ironman.

You cannot believe in your strength in advance. You can just invest in yourself every day, so that one day you realize that you are already a completely different person

This will be evident from your actions, behavior, environment, intolerance to what you do not like, the ability to say "No" and choose what you like, without regard to the opinion of others, the ability not to rush to the first thing that comes along, but to wait calmly good. And this, again, is directly related to whether you end up with money or not.

Therefore, men and women, pump yourself first. Do not put it on your partners, do not try to build up your abs at their expense. This is only your task. And learn to make money. Your degree of freedom in life directly depends on this

I am for the fact that there are many strong men and strong women in the world who respect themselves and others, are ready to share themselves and be happy.

Good luck.