2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
The beginning of the article is here Diet - notes from the life of psychosomatic clients
If we know that our constitutional characteristics are such that we tend to be overweight, we need to forget diet, as a synonym for fasting, and learn a new meaning of the term diet: “ Diet is a way of life . If I cannot keep my weight without dietary restrictions, if this is my constant problem, if my excess weight is a matter of my health, and not of psychological complexes, I need to choose a diet that will be with me throughout my life. Will I be able to eat only kefir and buckwheat all my life? Will I be able to calculate the calories of each dish all my life? Will I be able to eat only protein food all my life? Will I be able to eat only raw vegetables and fruits all my life? Etc. Will I be able to and is it necessary?
As a specialist in psychosomatics, I cannot say that diet is a useless and unnecessary exercise. As I already noted above, the diet is often not only therapeutic in nature, and sometimes it works better than medications, including for the correction of psychological problems (yes, sweets are not an assistant here;)). And as already discussed, some products for people of a certain constitutional type will always disrupt metabolism and cause both psychological and physiological difficulties. All it takes is don't be fanatical (and excessive fanaticism is a reason to consult a psychologist) and do not make the body hostage to its complexes.
You probably already guessed that giving up dietary thinking and reconciling with food does not guarantee mental and physical health. All unresolved psychological problems find a way out through diseases of other organs, and one of the significant disadvantages of the psychotherapeutic method is precisely that global changes do not occur quickly. The work is also complicated by the fact that the psychosomatic component (when both the psyche and the body are involved in the problem) is often tried to be solved one-sidedly, either by working only with the body, through diets and sports, or, on the contrary, by working only with the psyche. In the first case, we more often run the risk of running into breakdowns and rollbacks, in the second case we go to the result so slowly that during this time we manage to lose faith, desire and again come to a breakdown and rollback. Therefore, depending on the complexity of the question, I am still for complimentary help.
If a diet is needed
In the first edition of this article, I gave dietary advice. Experience has shown that no matter how detailed you describe the plan, still everyone reads it in their own way and often adheres to it incorrectly, after which they are perplexed that everything is not working well) In this case, I will just remind you that based on the goals that we have in front of ourselves put:
- if we are planning a diet that is aimed at restoring the body after an illness or during, as well as if the diet has a therapeutic or prophylactic focus, we either adhere to the WHO recommendations or adhere to the prescriptions of a specific specialist;
- if we plan a "lifelong" diet (see below *), we study our constitutional characteristics and get to know our body in order to understand: what is good for our body and what is not; what is characteristic of our body and what is not; what our body is inclined / capable of, and what it is not, and we choose the most suitable way of maintaining the body in this or that state. On the psychological plane, we learn to distinguish between a real feeling of hunger and seizing for the company, for the sake of a plan, just in case, etc., we revise our principles of "wholesome and healthy eating" (if orthorexia occurs), and we support the body in the process of psychological changes and work on ourselves until we enter into resonance (the same feeling when we do not count calories and do not plan to "work off for what we have eaten," but simply eat and enjoy life, without fear, guilt, anxiety, etc.).
- if we plan a diet because “everything is bad,” we focus on working with “everything is bad,” since diet does not solve behavioral and psychosocial problems. Diet, as such, does not give us a good husband / groom, does not give us a better job, does not add friends, does not bring joy in life, etc.
If a diet is not needed
If you do not belong to people whose weight is constantly increasing; if you don't like your hips, stomach, shoulders, cheeks, etc. - Underline whatever applicable; if excess weight does not create tangible health problems, does not cause physical discomfort and inconvenience in everyday life; if you are within the normal weight range, but consider yourself fat, most likely you do not need a diet, but an analysis of your psychological state.
Many articles and programs today are devoted to identifying the psychological blocks and complexes associated with obesity. I suggest that you do the following exercise to identify common psychosomatic patterns.
List of what I put up with
Create a list of everything that you have to endure in your life. It can be any "patient", from too bright sun, uncomfortable hat or mild unshaven partner, to material difficulties, specific complexes, etc. Everything that is “inconvenient and not so” needs to be clarified, what exactly is the inconvenience and what exactly is wrong.
Then divide this list into 2 new ones: 1- I tolerate this and will endure, because … and 2 - I tolerate this and do not want to endure, because …
At the next stage, we divide the second group into 2 new lists: 1 - I tolerate this, I do not want to endure and I know how to change, and 2 - I tolerate this, I do not want to endure and I don’t know what to do with it.
The first list you need to plan and start putting into action. On the second list, try to find answers and attract specialists who can help you in solving these issues (including lawyers, stylists, teachers, psychotherapists, etc.).
Summing up the results of this exercise, answer yourself the question "How does my" obesity "(my excess weight, etc.) help me to endure what I do not want to endure and do not know how to change?
Secondary benefit
Also supporting questions for determining the secondary benefit of your excess weight can be the following:
- What does my excess weight mean to me?
- What does it mean for me to lose weight?
- How does being overweight help me, what benefits and compensation do I get from it?
- How does my extra weight give me more strength and confidence?
- How does my extra weight help me feel safe?
- What is being overweight helping me avoid?
- How does being overweight enable me to receive more attention and love?
- What feelings does my extra weight help me express?
- What was I like before I was overweight?
- What happened in my life when the weight started to build up?
- How did everything change when you became overweight?
- What happens when I lose weight?
- After I lose weight, what will my life be like in a year (5, 10, 20 years)?
These exercises will help you better understand why you are dissatisfied with yourself. And if you start working on the identified problems, it will also help you to prevent the occurrence of other, more complex psychosomatic disorders.
Be healthy.
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