Fall In Love With A Psychotherapist

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43

First, it is worth saying that falling in love with the therapist, sympathizing with him, feeling attracted to him is normal. Think for yourself, the psychotherapist listens to us attentively, he does not condemn us and treats us impartially, he is attentive and caring, he accepts us as we are, he supports and teaches us to be ourselves. Sometimes the therapist is just beautiful, and sometimes the therapist may be the only man (woman) with whom we have a "relationship."

Against the background of all this, a natural attraction to such a person may arise, and he may seem to us just an ideal partner.

The most interesting thing is that we see only a small fragment from the life of a psychotherapist, so to speak, his best version, and at that moment our idealization of this person can reach its climax. The rest of the time he (she) is just an ordinary person, with his own fears and desires, with problems and joys, and perhaps he is not the same outside the office as in him.

If you see yourself in this situation and you really have an attraction for your therapist, you can stop and say to yourself:

- Yes, I definitely feel something for him, I like him, and that's okay. The thing is that I can be understood and accepted here, and this very much relaxes me, bribes me. Perhaps this is where these feelings come from when I get exactly what I need so badly, and it is he who gives it to me. But this is just a part of psychotherapy. It's just psychotherapy.

An important factor that enhances our sex drive is the dominance of sex and sexual images in our modern society. We live in a time saturated with sex, eroticism and attraction. It is also important that all this attraction, as a rule, does not have its own direct outlet and often turns into shame.

Huge energy cannot find a way out, it transforms, presses on us, and when conditions become safe, it rushes out in its most unexpected manifestations for us.

In a therapeutic relationship where there is warmth and understanding, shame ceases to dominate our behavior, and it can quickly be replaced by sexual attraction. It's safe here, you can be in love here.

If your therapist is experienced, and experience can be indicated by a good therapeutic relationship, then this attraction will be transformed into a deeper connection between the client and therapist and will be directed towards a deeper understanding of the client of himself.

There are many ways in which therapists are confronted with sexual attraction from patients, and here is one of these ways:

- I want to say thank you for sharing (sharing) your feelings for me, and I understand what it's like to be so (so) sensitive (sensitive). Well, I propose that we work with this energy that breaks out, and I want to say that sexual relations in therapy between the client and the therapist are excluded, as well as meetings outside the office.

This understanding will help establish strong boundaries in the therapeutic relationship. Next, it is worth clarifying the essence of sexual energy to the client and how to deal with it.

Sexual energy is, in a way, the energy of our lives. Many people believe that if we have sexual energy (energy that has a sexual origin), then we must necessarily spend it on sex, in one form or another. But if we remove the label "sexual", then we just get vital energy, which we can simply feel in our body. It's a new way to use it, just be with it and feel alive. Thus, we will go from being sexually aroused to being "alive."

It may not be easy to switch, but it allows us to choose a new register of our life, a new choice on the old energy.

It is a warm therapeutic relationship with good boundaries that will help us know this new kind of energy in us, feel alive, and perhaps channel this energy into creativity.

In any case, faced with all of the above, we enrich our experience, become clearer to ourselves and those around us. And it's worth it!