2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 15:43
Sometimes, instead of writing an article, I’m stupid in FB, stroking a cat, or suddenly remember that I should transplant flowers into a pot of a different color. Sound familiar? It's all the brain's fault.
When we are overwhelmed with a sense of responsibility and anxiety for important (as a rule, not yet done) things, adrenaline is produced. And in order to neutralize it, the brain helpfully slips us a win-win dopamine idea - to do something pleasant. This is how #procrastination is born - the habit of putting off important things. Sometimes this is just a small weakness that can be dealt with by willpower. And sometimes it becomes so catastrophic that it disrupts deadlines, ruins relationships, and even plunges into depression.
Let's see why this is happening and what can be done to fix the situation.
In addition to purely chemical processes, psychological processes certainly affect procrastination:
- a secondary benefit - if I put off doing unpleasant things, someone else will take care of them: wash the dishes, clean the apartment, finally buy a cat-pot filler, or issue an MTPL for a car.
- passive aggression - good old sabotage: when we cannot outright refuse to the boss, mother or wife. While agreeing to something for the sake of “peace in the family”, we nevertheless endlessly postpone the implementation of the agreements, and then completely safely “forget” about the unpleasant assignment.
- fear of failure - not everyone can openly admit that they simply do not know how to complete this or that task. We are afraid to seem weak, stupid, incompetent, dull and further down the list. Therefore, portraying enthusiasm and demonstratively flexing our "muscles", we are in no hurry to get down to business.
- fear of success - worries us no less than the fear of failure. After all, if everything works out, you will have to radically change your life, habits, environment. Do not believe how many people deliberately put spokes in their wheels so as not to leave their comfort zone.
What to do?
- prioritize and learn to plan. Time management is not an empty phrase, but a real key to success.
- learn how to correctly set goals - they must be clearly formulated, limited in time (the same notorious deadline), easily measurable (what exactly is considered "implementation")
- do not take on those things that are imposed on you, and calmly say "no" to people trying to dump their obligations on you
- do not hesitate to delegate the routine that causes rejection. It's okay if a specially trained person will cook, clean and pay the bills.
- if you didn't make money on a specially trained person, find motivation - you clean so that your home is comfortable (as an option, you can litter less and free up space as much as possible from useless things), you cook so that your children receive quality food, you go to the gym to be healthy and attractive. Each has strings to pull on. Find yours.
- stop gnawing at yourself for "laziness" - instead of spurring your carcass to fulfill obligations, you find yourself in a destructive vicious circle of guilt. Avoid obsessive thoughts and use your energy to complete tasks rather than panic.
Can't cope on your own? You know where to look for me.
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