You Fell For "love" Manipulations Of A Man So As Not To Take Responsibility For A Woman

2024 Author: Harry Day | [email protected]. Last modified: 2024-01-12 20:57

In this article, I will describe the most common manipulations by men who are not ready to bear almost any obligations to a woman (we are talking about women who are focused on serious relationships, and not on sex "for health").

If a relationship is built on mutual love, then a man will show this love for a woman not only in words, but also in deeds: to confirm the seriousness of his intentions, the willingness to take responsibility for the woman if she becomes pregnant, try to spend more time with her, show comprehensive care, to provide all possible help, not to disappear, not to keep in a state of uncertainty regarding their intentions, at least out of respect for her feelings. I'm not even talking about the inadmissibility of emotional, physical, sexual abuse.

But it also happens that a man enters into a sexual relationship with a woman he likes, and their relationship does not go beyond rare meetings for sex.

As soon as a woman begins to admit to a man her need to see her more often, to get married, to get help in a difficult life situation, she comes across reinforced concrete boundaries that her companion unexpectedly erects. The most unsightly manipulations are used, and women most often buy on them, choose to believe and be deceived.

After all, a woman in love sees in a man a hero-lover from a ladies' novel, and, behind a veil of euphoria and idealization, she is not able to discern his cunning tricks.

What are these tricks?

Manipulation # 1. There is friendship between us

The man had sex with a woman once or several times, but then he suddenly got scared of responsibility to her that his wife would find out about this relationship, and says to the woman something like this:

"I really like you, I feel good with you, you are interesting to me as a person, I do not want to lose you, but due to such and such circumstances it will be better if we continue to communicate as friends."

By this time, a woman is already emotionally attached to a man and agrees to such conditions, nourishing the hope that he will love her over time and everything will change.

Despite the friendly status of the relationship, between them every now and then there is sex, which is explained by the man as a mistake, "the sinful call of the flesh", that "this should not have happened" … The woman's passion only grows, but the man keeps her in this uncertain, suspended state … And most importantly, she thinks that she has no right to present something to him, because they are friends.

Manipulation # 2. Speculation with the word "love"

That only a manipulator man does not present under the sauce of love! These may be beliefs in the need for an open relationship, which he spices up with the phrase: "A loving person thinks about the interests of a partner and does not fetter his freedom." Ignore or sudden "disappearance from the radar" is explained as the need for personal space, the woman's attempts to clarify relationships - as a violation of personal boundaries, the need for gifts and material support - as commercialism, the desire to look good - as narcissism and fucking.

Manipulators are now also psychologized, they only distort the information received in their favor.

Over time, the boundaries of the man become practically impenetrable, while the boundaries of the woman are simply swept away.

She believes the manipulator's accusations, is imbued with his sanctimonious morality, becomes obedient, submissive, comfortable, allowing herself to continue to be used until she gets bored.

Of course, these are far from all the tricks of such men. The main thing is to recognize the deception in time and get out of a knowingly losing relationship, make a choice in favor of healthy ones, where there really is love and respect.