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- I repeat: there is no need to do homework with the child! There is no need to collect a portfolio with him! Asking "how is it at school?" no need. You spoil the relationship and the result is only negative. Don't you have anything else to talk to him about?
- The child must have personal free time when he does NOTHING: from 2 to 4 hours a day. Anxious, ambitious parents of children over-organize. Circles, sections, languages … And they get neuroses and everything that is attached to them.
- In relations with the school and teachers, you must be on the side of your child. Take care of children. Don't be afraid of bad ratings. Be careful not to drive you to disgust for school and school in general.
- Russian parents are grades-oriented. This is from Soviet times. For example, in my class there were two Czechs and one Pole. After one serious test at the meeting, all OUR parents asked about the grades, and only Czechs and Poles asked something like: "How did he feel? Was he worried?" And it is right.
- It is difficult to say who has more psychological problems - an excellent student or a poor student.
Excellent students who take zeal and "incubate" their A's are anxious children with low self-esteem.
- If your child is not able to do the homework on his own - there is always a reason. Laziness has nothing to do with it. There is no such category as laziness in psychology at all. Laziness always translates into a lack of motivation and will.
- Among the reasons why a child does not do his homework himself, there can be anything: increased intracranial pressure, hypertonicity, psychological problems, ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder). And instead of spending your evenings sitting together on textbooks, it is better to try to identify this cause and work to eliminate it.
- There are parents who want to raise responsible, independent, successful children.
And there are parents whose goal is total control over the child, and how he grows up there is not so important - the main thing is not to get off the leash.
- How often, because of anxiety about grades, families literally collapse, relationships collapse, parents and children are separated, sometimes forever.
The psyche of adolescents is already aggravated, and the months of preparation for the GIA and USE become truly black times for the family: everyone is haunted by neuroses and depression, they provoke hysteria, illness, almost suicide.
How to avoid all this nightmare, or at least minimize the consequences?
I think focus on love and eternal values.
Think that pretty soon, when all grades and exams are erased from memory, only one thing will be important - have you lost intimacy, trust, understanding, friendship with your child …
After all, you can get an A and lose your daughter. Pass the exam, "go to college for my son," but no longer restore relations.
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